Self-help books, CDs and DVDs are available for students and spouses to borrow from the Counseling/Chapel Office. Topics include ADD, relationship enhancement, dealing with depression, anxiety, trauma, sleep difficulties, spiritual formation, self-esteem, eating issues, anger management, and more.

Resources are listed below by category. Click on a category to view the available resources.

Use Ctrl+F (Cmd+F) to find search for specific titles, authors or keywords.

Materials can be borrowed for a two week period and renewed as needed. Stop by and see Nancy or Teresa in Scheide Hall. A printed copy of the book/media list is available in the lobby.

 

NEW RESOURCES -  2013-2014

BOOKS

Drinking: A Love Story by Caroline Knapp (Addictions / Co-Dependence)

The New Male Sexuality (Revised Edition) by Bernie Zilbergeld (MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIPS)

Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIPS)

Hardwiring Happiness by Rick Hanson (POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY)

The Willpower Instinct by Kelly McGonigal (POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY)


CDS

Relaxing Sounds-60 minute CD of wind chimes and oceans waves (GENERAL WELL-BEING)

Overcoming Stress-Related Insomnia narrated by Dr. Stuart McCalley (STRESS)

Relaxation and Christian Meditation by Dr. Archibald Hart (STRESS)

 


 

ADD / ADHD Family / Parenting Positive Psychology
Addictions / Co-Dependence General Well-Being PTSD  
Anger Grief Sexual Orientation
Anxiety Illness / Surgery Spirituality / Discernment
Asperger's Syndrome   Marriage / Relationships Strengths / Personality Types
Depression / Suicide OCD Stress
Divorce / Infidelity Pain Vocation / Ministry  
Eating Disorders Personal Growth / Self-Esteem Weight Loss


ADD/ADHD

ADD in Intimate Relationships: A Comprehensive Guide for Couples
by Daniel Amen

This book may save for couples who previously felt destined to live together in misery. This book is unique in several ways: it gives specific healing techniques for overcoming the emotional gap subsequent to ADD; Dr. Amen shares the existence of ADD within his own experience, bringing both a professional and personal knowledge of the disorder; it focuses on the repercussions of those who love someone with ADD; and it provides the help you need to keep your family together in a healthy way, which encourages growth rather than turmoil. (BOOK)
 
Delivered from Distraction: Getting the Most out of Life with Attention Deficit Disorder
by Edward Hallowell and John Ratey

Hallowell and Ratey survey the current medical landscape concerning ADD, combining their own clinical observations with the latest research to paint a much more complex and, in many ways, positive picture of the condition than has generally been presented. Hallowell and Ratey, “ADDers” themselves, embrace the idea that success in life comes more from playing to your strengths (creativity, charisma, etc.) than overcoming your weaknesses. The authors insist that, while medication and other treatments can sometimes work wonders in reducing limitations, surrounding yourself with people who promote these positive traits, be they in your personal or professional life, is the single most important element to living well with ADD. (BOOK)
 
Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder from Childhood through Adulthood
by Edward Hallowell and John Ratey

Millions of children and adults tell themselves or are told by others to stop procrastinating, start concentrating, sit still, finish what they started, and get organized. But what appears to be a matter of self-discipline is for many a neurological problem. Hallowell and Ratey reveal the impact precise diagnosis and treatment can have. Focusing on Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) as a life-long neurological problem that affects adults as well as children, this definitive book describes the various forms ADD takes, how professionals distinguish ADD patterns from "unacceptable" behavior, and how medication and behavior modification techniques can balance its negative and positive aspects. (BOOK)
 
Healing ADD: The Breakthrough Program That Allows You to See and Heal the 6 Types of ADD
by Daniel Amen

Using breakthrough diagnostic techniques, Amen has discovered six distinct types of ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder), each requiring a different treatment. With recommendations for treatments, this revolutionary approach can lead sufferers of ADD to a normal, fully-functional life. (BOOK)
 
Mastering Your Adult ADHD: A Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment Program
by Steven Safren

This treatment program offers effective strategies that follow an empirically-supported treatment approach. The therapist guide provides clinicians with effective means of teaching clients skills that have been scientifically tested and shown to help adults cope with ADHD. The step-by-step, session-by-session descriptions are a practical resource for therapists who deliver the treatment to clients with ADHD. The intervention described in the client workbook contains all of the necessary information for participating in a practical, tested, and effective cognitive-behavioral intervention for adults with ADHD and residual symptoms not full treated by medications alone. (BOOK)


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ADDICTIONS/CO-DEPENDENCE
 
Addiction and Grace
by Gerald May

This book offers an inspiring and hope–filled vision for those who desire to explore the mystery of who and what they really are. May examines the "processes of attachment" that lead to addiction and describes the relationship between addiction and spiritual awareness. Drawing on his experiences as a psychiatrist working with the chemically dependent, May details the various addictions from which we can suffer, not only to substances like alcohol and drugs, but to work, sex, performance, responsibility, and intimacy. He examines the "processes of attachment" that led to addiction and describes the relationship between addiction and spiritual awareness. (BOOK)

Adult Children of Alcoholics
by Janet Geringer Woititz

Woititz, the mother of the ACoA movement, provides wisdom and information for all adult children of dysfunctional families. A Pioneer, Woititz broke new ground in our understanding what it is to be an adult child of an alcoholic. Today she re-examines the movement and its inclusion of adult children from various dysfunctional family backgrounds who share the same characteristics. After more than ten years of working with ACoA’s she shares the recovery hints that she has found to work. (BOOK)

Breaking Free: A Recovery Workbook for Facing Codependence
by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miller
Based on such concepts as the "precious child" and the five core symptoms of codependence, along with the Twelve-Step process of recovery used by Codependents Anonymous, Breaking Free provides strategies and insights for attacking the fundamental problem in codependence--the lack of dependence on self. In a three-part approach to recovery, Mellody first shows recovering codependents how to move beyond denial of their childhood history of abuse. She then offers techniques to identify concrete ways in which the symptoms of codependence operate in their lives. Finally, Mellody guides users through the process of identifying and recording specific instances of improvement in their lives as an aid to greater self-awareness and recovery. (WORKBOOK)
*Breaking Free also available (BOOK - see below)*

Breaking Free: A Recovery Workbook for Facing Codependence 
by Pia Mellody and Andrea Wells Miller 

Based on such concepts as the "precious child" and the five core symptoms of codependence, along with the Twelve-Step process of recovery used by Codependents Anonymous, Breaking Free provides strategies and insights for attacking the fundamental problem in codependence--the lack of dependence on self. In a three-part approach to recovery, Mellody first shows recovering codependents how to move beyond denial of their childhood history of abuse. She then offers techniques to identify concrete ways in which the symptoms of codependence operate in their lives. Finally, Mellody guides users through the process of identifying and recording specific instances of improvement in their lives as an aid to greater self-awareness and recovery. (BOOK) 

Co-Dependence: Misunderstood-Mistreated
by Anne Wilson Schaef

This book describes an unhealthy type of relationship which can develop between drug-addicted people and those close to them, and explains how this problem can be treated. It traces the history and development of the concept of co-dependence and discusses its often confusing, overlapping definitions.(BOOK)

Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
by Melody Beattie

If, like so many others, you’ve lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else’s, you may be codependent and you may find yourself in this book. This modern classic holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life. Instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests provide a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency - charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness. (BOOK)

Creating Choices: How Adult Children Can Turn Today’s Dreams into Tomorrow’s Reality
by Sheila Bayle-Lissick and Elis Marquam Jahns

Bayle-Lissick and Jahns have the answer for recovering adult children of alcoholics. The first thing you need is a desire to get more out of life. From there, you’ll learn practical, proven skills that helped the authors expand their creativity and self-reliance, making a significant difference in their lives. These suggestions, tips, and exercises will help you create new self-awareness. A healing resource for moving beyond the adult-child syndrome. Both authors are recovering adult children of alcoholics. Their journey of creating choices has expanded their awareness and enriched their lives. (BOOK)

Drinking: A Love Story
by Caroline Knapp
Fifteen million Americans a year are plagued with alcoholism. Five millions of them are women. Many of them, like Caroline Knapp, start in their early teens and began to use alcohol as “liquid armor”, a way to protect themselves against the difficult realities of life. In this extraordinarily candid and revealing memoir, Knapp offers important insights on only about alcoholism, but about life itself and how we learn to cope with it. (BOOK)

Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes From, How It Sabotages Our Lives
by Pia Mellody

In this fresh new look at codependence, Pia traces the origins of the illness back to childhood, describing a whole range of emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses. Because of these early experiences, adults often lack the skills necessary to lead mature lives and have satisfying relationships. Central to Pia’s concept is the idea of what she calls the “precious child” that needs healing within each adult. Recovery is achieved by learning to re-parent oneself. Pia creates a framework for identifying codependent behavior and outlines effective therapy for recovering from the trap of codependence. (BOOK)

Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love
by Pia Mellody

In this book, Mellody describes in detail the dynamics of a co-addicted relationship, the symptoms of each partner, and the stages of addiction from attraction and fantasy to denial and obsession. She provides a practical recovery process for love addicts and their partners based on Twelve-Step work, exercises, and journaling. Mellody’s clear guidelines will comfort and motivate all those who seek to establish healthy love relationships.(BOOK)

Health Journeys: Alcohol and Other Drugs
by Belleruth Naparstek

A guided imagery created with the help of several 12-step groups and recovery counselors, using heart-opening imagery to help reduce addictive craving and teach relaxation skills. It includes images of the body restoring itself and regaining vitality to accentuate positive motivation and support sobriety. (CD - 61 minutes)

A Primer on Adult Children of Alcoholics
by Timmen Cermak

Cermak describes in depth the disease of alcoholism, the five signs of co-dependence that exist in the family of the alcoholic and the characteristics that occur in the adult children who grow up in the family. He describes the typical recovery process, identifying the stages of development and listing the aids and support groups for recovery. (BOOK)

Reclaim Your Life: You and the Alcoholic/Addict
by Carole Bennett
In the United States alone, more than twenty-two million people are addicted to alcohol and other drugs, for every individual with this disposition, there are four or more family members or friends directly involved with their loved one’s substance abuse issues. Reclaim Your Life: You and the Alcoholic/Addict was written for the millions of people who struggle with the heartache, frustration, confusion, and resentment, and who urgently seek help as they navigate the murky waters of addiction. This reader-friendly guide teaches specific communication tools that empower you to implement confident boundaries. Reclaiming your respect, dignity, and peace of mind are achievable goals through the theories, concepts, and case studies this book offers. (BOOK)

Recovery: A Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics
by Herbert Gravitz and Julie Bowden

Rich with insight and awareness, Recovery explores the secrets, fears, hopes and issues that confront adult children of alcoholics. Gravitz and Bowden detail in a clear question-and-answer format the challenges of control and inadequacy that ACOAs face as they struggle for recovery and understanding, stage-by-stage: Survival, Emergent Awareness, Core Issues, Transformations, Integration, Genesis. (BOOK)

Tangled in the Web: Understanding Cybersex from Fantasy to Addiction
by Kimberly Young

Young offers a critical look at cybersex fantasy and its potential for addiction and provides a comprehensive plan for recovery to help individuals hooked on adult chat rooms, online pornography, web cam sex, or a cyberaffair. (BOOK)

The Window of Grace: Living in Recovery through Christian Faith
by Kimme Carlos

Carlos shares her story of addiction infused with information and inspiration gleamed along my road to recovery and through her work with Galilee Baptist Church and NAMI. Carlos talks about letting go of victimhood in addiction and claiming ownership of your place in God’s kingdom regardless of your place in life right now. The book addresses tough stuff, like how to get clean and sober; learning to live in recovery; how to deal with guilt, forgiveness, and rebuilding broken relationships; and finally, finding your purpose in the kingdom of God. (BOOK)

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ANGER

The Anger Work-Out Book: Step-By-Step Methods for Greater Productivity, Better Relationships, and Healthier Life
by Hendrie Weisenger

In this helpful manual, Weisinger offers a collection of special tests to aid in determining the root of the anger problem, and a series of proven exercises to help vent anger in a more positive fashion and learn to use the emotion creatively. (BOOK)

Angry All the Time: An Emergency Guide to Anger Control
by Ronald T. Potter-Efron

The vicious cycle of problem anger is hard to break. Real change, an escape from the damaging patterns of persistent anger, requires good information and sound advice. This book contains both. Angry All the Time is organized to move readers along the shortest path to recovery: In the first section readers explore the causes of their anger. Then, in the second section they learn powerful, step-by-step strategies to control their behavior, to change anger- provoking thoughts, to avoid verbal and physical violence-in short, to make the author's eight-step process of anger management a powerful force for change in their lives. (BOOK)

The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Goldhor Lerner (see MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIPS )

Letting Go of the Anger: The Eleven Most Common Anger Styles & What to Do about Them
by Ronald T. and Patricia S. Potter-Efron

Most of us express anger in more than one way, but we also tend to be creatures of habit, falling back on a few predictable styles when we feel angry. Unfortunately, while some styles are appropriate in some situations, others are not, and consistently using an inappropriate style is a sure way to find yourself saddled with a huge anger problem. This book examines the eleven most common styles of anger expression and helps you learn how to communicate your anger in healthy ways. Learn which anger styles work for different situations-and which ones lead to certain disaster. Find out how to become more flexible and creative at expressing your anger. (BOOK)

Non-Violent Communication, A Language of Life: Create Your Life, Your Relationships and Your World in Harmony with Your Values
by Marshall Rosenberg

An enlightening look at how peaceful communication can create compassionate connections with family, friends, and other acquaintances. This book uses stories, examples, and sample dialogues to provide solutions to communication problems both at home and in the workplace. Guidance is provided on identifying and articulating feelings and needs, expressing anger fully, and exploring the power of empathy in order to speak honestly without creating hostility, break patterns of thinking that lead to anger and depression, and communicate compassionately. These non-violent communication skills are fully explained and can be applied to personal, professional, and political differences. (BOOK)

Stop the Anger Now: A Workbook for the Prevention, Containment, and Resolution of Anger
by Ron Potter-Efron

Potter-Efron makes anger control a manageable skill that anybody can learn. Through an engaging combination of incisive questions, realistic scenarios, and interactive strategies, his workbook helps people gain an awareness of angry thoughts, feelings, and actions. Thirty-six exercises help readers learn what triggers anger, how to recognize and avoid danger situations, how to diffuse anger when it flares up, and how to turn rage into energy for finding solutions. The book also offers relaxation techniques and suggestions for resolving underlying frustrations that keep anger at the boiling point. (WORKBOOK)

When Anger Hurts Your Kids: A Parent's Guide
by McKay, Peleg, Fanning and Landis

All parents get angry sometimes, but research clearly suggests that the amount of anger expressed in the family will have a negative impact on a child's performance in nearly every important area of life. When Anger Hurts Your Kids brings together the practical lessons of a two-year study of 285 parents. Learn how to tell if your family has anger problems, how to combat the 18 mistaken beliefs that fuel anger, and how to practice the art of problem-solving communication-skills that will let you feel more effective as a parent and let your kids grow up free of anger's damaging effects. (BOOK)

When Chicken Soup Isn’t Enough: Managing Your Anger in an Increasingly Angry World
by Bradley P. Barris

Anger is the most important psychological problem confronting the world today. This book, devoid of "psycho-babble," addresses the real world needs of individuals struggling to manage their anger. Once the origins of anger are explained, readers are given tools to help them choose an emotion, other than anger, that helps them be more assertive, helps them solve life's problems, and results in their being better parents and experiencing richer, more satisfying relationships. Exercises throughout the book are designed to help readers apply principles to their everyday experiences with anger. (BOOK)

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ANXIETY 

 The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook
by Edmund J. Bourne

This resource offers practical, step-by-step directions for the mastery of: relaxation; exercise; coping with panic; exposure; overcoming negative self-talk; changing mistaken beliefs; specific phobias; self-esteem; nutrition; medication; meditation techniques; and anxiety-evoking health conditions. It includes the latest anxiety research and medications, and also includes new therapeutic techniques that have been proven effective for the treatment of anxiety and anxiety-related conditions. Each worksheet in this book will teach the skills needed to manage anxiety and start living more freely than ever imagined. (BOOK)

 The Anxiety Cure
by Archibald Hart

Panic Anxiety is the number one mental health problem for women and second only to drug abuse among men. Synthetic tranquilizers can alleviate the symptoms of anxiety illnesses. However, in order to achieve lasting emotional tranquility, a significant lifestyle change must be made. The Anxiety Cure provides proven, natural strategies for overcoming panic disorder and finding an emotional balance in today's fast-paced world. (BOOK)

Depression and Anxiety Management
by John Preston

This resource demonstrates how our thoughts literally create our emotions and offers step-by -step help for identifying the thoughts that are causing anxiety and depression, confronting unrealistic and distorted thinking, and replacing negative mental patterns with healthy, realistic thinking. (Cassette - 90 minutes)

Don’t Panic: Taking Control of Anxiety Attacks
by Reid Wilson

It may come as some surprise to learn that the best way to deal with a problem like anxiety is to invite it in, to abandon the struggle, and embrace the symptoms. Panic and anxiety attacks thrive on human resistance, and without it they often simply disappear. This and many other key approaches to overcoming attacks are to be found in this book, which goes into very specific detail on how to build one's own panic-defeating bag of tricks (i.e. mentally cataloging positive images and practicing focused breathing). Problems like hypoglycemia and PMS can exacerbate panic symptoms and these and other related problems are covered, as are the wide variety of prescription anti-anxiety medications available. (BOOK)

Hope and Help for Your Nerves
by Claire Weeks

This classic book offers a practical program for replacing fear and anxiety with understanding and self-confidence. It will interest those suffering from panic attacks, stress, agoraphobia, stage fright and shyness. (BOOK)

Health Journeys: Panic Attacks
by Belleruth Naparstek

This highly acclaimed, research-proven, physician-endorsed guided imagery combines powerful music and a state-of-the-art understanding of the mind-body connection to reduce or eliminate acute anxiety and panic attacks. The first 3 exercises (conscious breathing, mantra meditation and body awareness) can be used separately or cumulatively; followed by guided imagery to reduce fear & isolation, instill a sense of mastery and control, and manage or eliminate symptoms. (CD - 66 minutes)

Stress 101: How Anxiety Impacts Brain and Body, and a Smorgasbord of Ways to De-Stress
Lecture from the Princeton Seminary Wholistic Health Initiative Seminars, March 2008. (CD)

Ten Simple Solutions to Panic
by Martin Anthony and Randy E. McCabe

Moments of panic can cause you to experience physical expressions of fear with no apparent cause, robbing you of confidence and composure unexpectedly throughout your day. You deserve to be free from these troublesome moments, and the ten effective techniques you'll find in this book make it not only possible but also easy. Learn how to monitor your episodes of panic, and find out how to replace your anxious, racing inner monologue with calm, realistic thinking. Discover safe and comfortable ways to face fearful situations. Breathing exercises and stress reduction techniques round out this approach to overcoming panic that promises to restore your security and peace of mind. (BOOK) 

When Panic Attacks: The New, Drug-Free Anxiety Therapy That Can Change Your Life
by David Burns

While traditional therapy and drugs don't cure anxiety, revolutionary new cognitive behavior therapies can help. Burns provides an arsenal of behavior-changing techniques in this indispensable guide for anyone with unhealthy anxiety. (BOOK) 

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ASPERGER SYNDROME  



The Complete Guide to Asperger’s Syndrome
by Tony Attwood

Drawing on case studies and personal accounts from Attwood's extensive clinical experience, and from his correspondence with individuals with AS, this book is both authoritative and accessible. Chapters examine: causes and indications of the syndrome; the diagnosis and its effect on the individual; theory of mind; the perception of emotions in self and others; social interaction, including friendships; long-term relationships; teasing, bullying and mental health issues; the effect of AS on language and cognitive abilities, sensory sensitivity, movement and co-ordination skills and career development. There is also an invaluable frequently asked questions chapter and a section listing useful resources for anyone wishing to find further information on a particular aspect of AS, as well as literature and educational tools. (BOOK)

The Oasis Guide to Asperger Syndrome: Advice, Support and Inspiration
by Patricia Romanowski Bashe and Barbara L. Kirby

Bashe and Kirby, founders of OASIS (Online Asperger Syndrome Information and Support), have crafted a comprehensive resource for parents, teachers, therapists, and anyone who knows or works with someone with AS. In addition to discussing what AS looks like and how parents can guide their unique child through the social, emotional, and intellectual challenges of growing up, this book includes new developments made in AS research over recent years, new thinking on diagnosis and evaluation, the latest approaches to medication and social skills development, and tips on navigating the maze of interventions, therapies, and special education. The authors know firsthand the joys and frustrations of raising children with AS, and they share their own experiences as well as those of dozens of parents facing the same issues. (BOOK)

BIPOLAR DISORDER  

Facing Bipolar: The Young Adult’s Guide to Dealing with Bipolar Disorder
  by Russ Federman and J. Anderson Thomson
When you travel to a new city, it helps to have a map close at hand. On the first day of school, you need to have your schedule of classes. And if you've been diagnosed with bipolar disorder or suspect you may have it, then it's even more important to have a guidebook within reach. Facing Bipolar will help you navigate the world of medications, therapists, and the up-and-down mood cycles common to the disorder. It clearly explains what bipolar disorder is and provides sound guidance for developing the necessary coping skills to manage its impact on your life. In this book you'll discover: how therapy and medications can help; when and how to tell your friends, roommates, and teachers; the four key factors that will bring more stability to your life; how to develop a support network and access college resources; and ways to overcome the challenges in accepting this illness. (BOOK)

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  DEPRESSION/SUICIDE
see also POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY

Beyond Prozac: Brain-Toxic Lifestyles, Natural Antidotes and New Generation Antidepressants
by Michael J. Norden
Dr. Michael Norden, a psychiatrist and pioneer in developing new applications of Prozac, explains how the toll of modern-day life has undermined our health and led to a national epidemic of depression, anxiety and weight problems. But there is hope. Based on seven years of groundbreaking research and clinical work, Beyond Prozac offers solutions to these chronic health problems that go beyond simply prescribing Prozac from incredibly effective alternative treatments such as light therapy, regulation of sleeping habits, and specialized diets to the next generation of safer and more effective depression medications. (BOOK)

 Breathe to Beat the Blues
by Amy Weintraub

This is a dynamic set of twelve exercises that ingeniously deploy the breath to dissolve depression. Weintraub provides the listener with incentive and energy with her presence, voice, clarity and authenticity... a perfect antidote for the blahs and the blues. (CD - 58 minutes)

Combat Depression (Health Journeys)
by Belleruth Naparstek

This guided imagery is about dissipating the heavy fog of depression, releasing tamped down energy, reuniting with inner strength and again feeling hope, love and possibility. It’s versatile and works well with all sorts of people and issues. (CD - 44 minutes)

Conquering the Beast Within: How I Fought Depression and Won…and How You Can, Too
by Cait Irwin

In vivid words and images, Cait Irwin shares her own compelling story: how she struggled with clinical depression at age fourteen, was hospitalized, sought therapy, found the right medication, and successfully made the long, arduous climb back to good health. This volume shares an inspirational message with all who are waging their own battles with depression: There is a way out. (BOOK)

Depression and Anxiety Management
by John Preston
(see ANXIETY )

Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy
by David Burns

Antidepressants are a miracle, but to really beat depression we need to change our whole way of thinking. This book is a great introduction to a process--known as cognitive therapy--that can help us do just that. According to Burns, depression results from a process wherein negative thoughts produce distortions of reality. Through a careful monitoring of thoughts, this depression-producing distortion is avoidable. One can also learn to distinguish reality from its depression-fueled distortions, and cut the downward spiral short. Burns offers a system of prevention, self control, and understanding, making possible what he refers to as "rapid symptomatic improvement." (BOOK)

The Feeling Good Handbook
by David Burns

In this sequel to Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy , Burns reveals powerful new techniques and provides step-by-step exercises that help you cope with the full range of everyday problems. Free yourself from fears, phobias, and panic attacks; overcome self-defeating attitudes; discover the five secrets of intimate communication; put an end to marital conflict; conquer procrastination and unleash your potential for success. With an up-to-date section on everything you need to know about commonly prescribed psychiatric drugs and anxiety disorders such as agoraphobia and obsessive-compulsive disorder, this guide can show you how to feel good about yourself and the people you care about. (BOOK)

How I Stayed Alive When My Brain Was Trying to Kill Me: One Person’s Guide to Suicide Prevention
by Susan Rose Blauner

A personal account of suicide prevention offers excellent practical advice to "teach you how to get through those excruciating moments when every cell in your brain and body is screaming, `I want to die!' " Approaching "suicidal thoughts" as an addiction, Blauner clearly explains how some people's "brain style" responds to environmental stresses or "triggers" with obsessive suicidal thoughts rather than cravings for alcohol or other drugs. Blauner provides others like herself with "Tricks of the Trade" that can literally save lives. With neither hollow platitudes nor medical doublespeak, she covers brain function, antidepressants, finding a good therapist, identifying triggers, creating a "Crisis Plan" for critical moments and heading off suicidal thoughts by coping with hunger, anger, loneliness and fatigue. (BOOK)

I Don’t Want to Talk About It
by Terrence Real

Depression has long been identified as an ailment that is widespread in western society. Yet, until recently, very few people have focused on depression in men. In this powerful and inspiring book, Real shows how many men, feeling the stigma of depression's 'unmanliness', conceal their condition not only from their families and friends but also from themselves. Attempts to escape depression fuel many of the problems we think of as typically male, difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behavior and rage. Real teaches us how men can unearth their pain, heal themselves and restore relationships. He offers great wisdom, hope and practical guidance for them and their families. (BOOK)

Out of the Blues
by Jay Cleve

A guide to depression management that offers a range of long-term and short-term strategies to help sufferers cope with their ailment, explaining how to identify and eliminate emotional bad habits that can prolong and intensify depression. (BOOK)

Overcoming Depression
by Demitri Papolos and Janice Papolos

More than 20 million Americans will suffer an episode of depression or mania during their lifetimes, and one in five American families will feel its impact directly. For these families, Overcoming Depression is the essential resource. Since its first publication in 1987, it has become the book most often recommended by doctors to their depressed patients because it clearly and sympathetically presents state-of-the-art medical information and the solid, practical advice that patients and their families need to participate actively in diagnosis and treatment. Now featuring all-new data on the latest drugs, research, treatment, and medical insurance, it also includes a frank discussion of psychiatric therapy in the era of managed care. (BOOK)

Undoing Depression: What Therapy Doesn’t Teach You and Medication Can’t Give You
by Richard O’Connor

According to O’Connor, depression is fueled by complex and interrelated factors: genetic, biochemical, and environmental. This book focuses on an additional, often overlooked factor: our own habits. Unwittingly, we get “good at” depression. We learn how to hide it, how to work around it, and we make it through each day, we deprive ourselves of true recovery, of deep joy and healthy emotion, of the feeling of being alive in the world. This book teaches us how to replace depressive patterns of thinking, relation, and behaving with a new and more effective set of skills. We already know how to “do” depression, and we can learn how to undo it. With a truly holistic approach that synthesizes the best of the many schools of thought, O’Connor offers new hope for depressives. (BOOK)

HAPPY BULBS are available at cost ($3.00) in the Chapel Office. These 65 and 100 watt bulbs are more like sunlight than regular bulbs and having one in your desk lamp may be mood-enhancing. However, they are not the strength of a light box used to treat seasonal affective disorder or winter depression.

A LIGHT BOX STRENGTH DESK LAMP can be borrowed for two week intervals and can help you cope with symptoms of SAD or winter depression.

Click here for more information about SAD (Seasonal Affectivene Disorder)


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DIVORCE / INFIDELITY

see also MARRIAGE / RELATIONSHIPS

Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce
by Elizabeth Marquardt

Marquardt, herself a child of divorce, conducted with Professor Norval Glenn, a pioneering national study of children of divorce, surveying 1,500 young adults from both divorced and intact families between 2001 and 2003. In Between Two Worlds, Marquardt weaves the findings of that study together with powerful, unsentimental stories of the childhoods of young people from divorced families. The hard truth, she says, is that while divorce is sometimes necessary, even amicable divorces sow lasting inner conflict in the lives of children. When a family breaks in two, children who stay in touch with both parents must travel between two worlds, trying alone to reconcile their parents often strikingly different beliefs, values, and ways of living. Marquardt makes a persuasive case against the culture of casual divorce. (BOOK)

The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage
by Michelle Weiner Davis

This book gives couples the keys to acquiring the relationship and communication skills they need to bring their marriages back to life. In a down-to-earth style that is free of psychobabble, Weiner Davis outlines a realistic, solution-oriented seven-step program for managing marital problems, which, when left unchecked, can drain the life out of a relationship. Using revealing anecdotes and in-depth case studies, she illustrates practical ways for marriage partners to: avoid the "divorce trap"; identify specific marriage-saving goals; move beyond ineffective, hurtful ways of interacting ; become an expert on "doing what works"; overcome infidelity, Internet obsessions, depression, sexual problems, and midlife crises; get your marriage back on track -- and keep it there. (BOOK)

Healthy Divorce: For Parents and Children--An Original, Clinically Proven Program for Working Through the Fourteen Stages of Separation, Divorce, and Remarriage
by Craig Everett and Sandra Volgy Everett

This encouraging book outlines the fourteen stages of divorce and offers families practical advice and solutions for negotiating one of life's most difficult events. Healthy Divorce explores ways of confronting such tough issues as how to tell your children you're getting a divorce, how to plan a separation, and how to cope with your feelings of anger, grief, and abandonment. The authors offer practical advice on using mediation as an alternative to the adversarial court battle; co-parenting to maintain stability for the children after the divorce; and organizing and structuring a happy blended family. Filled with helpful checklists and numerous examples, this book offers a detailed plan for for both parents and children to maintain emotional stability and a sense of security, find renewal, and ultimately flourish when emerging from a divorce. (BOOK)

Love Is Never Enough: How Couples Can Overcome Misunderstandings, Resolve Conflicts, and Solve Relationship Problems Through Cognitive Thinking
by Aaron Beck

According to Beck, many couples therapy books tend to focus on lack of communication in the relationship rather than the problem of miscommunication. This book provides a thorough examination of perils such as "presumed mind reading," anger, ambiguity, defensiveness, the evil "shoulds," and the reduction of sex. The cognitive psychological approach is recommended here, with chapters devoted to the development of better conversational skills, setting rules, and showing respect for differing perspectives. With Beck's sensible advice pointing the way, unhappy couples have the opportunity to stop seeing each other as annoying, boring, or insensitive and to start seeing each other for what they really are: beautiful, deeply complex individuals able to add an endless amount of romance, excitement, and comfort to each other's lives. (BOOK)

The Marriage Breakthrough
by Michele Weiner-Davis

This marriage seminar is designed to help you: feel closer and more connected to your spouse; save your marriage from the brink of divorce; convince your spouse that your marriage is worth saving; learn how to have a loving, lasting relationship. Michele Weiner-Davis has made it her life’s passion to help couples strengthen their marriages. She knows what works and what doesn’t. The Marriage Breakthrough® Seminar is filled with skill-building information that will help any couple make their relationship more loving. One of the real benefits of this seminar is its powerful message about the importance of working things out rather than getting out. (VHS - 4 tapes and leader’s guide)

The Parents Book About Divorce
by Richard Gardner

Gardner provides clear, practical guidelines for parents, and addresses the most relevant and up-to-date aspects of divorce including mediation, custody, counseling, communication, and more. (BOOK)

Private Lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Intimacy
by Frank Pittman

Using actual case studies, as well as examples from music, literature and film, Pittman identifies four basic patterns of infidelity--the accidental encounter, habitual philandering, marital arrangements, and romance--, discusses how to limit the damage that affairs do, and offers practical suggestions on how to make a marriage work. (BOOK)

The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce
by Judith Wallerstein, Julia Lewis and Sandra Blakeslee

Wallerstein's 25-year study of the effects of divorce on children, including their adolescence and young adulthood, gives a unique and vivid portrait of the divorce culture. A comparative study, it sheds light on the legacy of failed marriages: attitudes, life-choices, and behaviors that children of intact homes do not harbor. (BOOK)

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EATING DISORDERS
see also WEIGHT LOSS

Bite by Bite
by Geneen Roth
Roth is the ultimate antidote for reversing our wacky cultural distortions and contradictions about eating and self-image. This double CD set is wonderful for anyone struggling with weight, and particularly good for people with eating disorders. And what an engaging presenter she is! She totally knows her stuff and she has some very important, well-organized content to present. On the first CD, she offers 7 guidelines to break free from emotional eating, with a 12-minute guided eating meditation. The 2nd CD is about getting in touch with feelings, and includes a 20 minute imagery exercise. (CD - 135 minutes) *This CD pairs well with Women, Food and God (BOOK - see below)*

Conscious Eating, Conscious Living: A Practical Guide to Making Peace with Food and Your Body
by Barbara Holtzman

Carefully crafted by Holtzman, a clinical social worker, this psychologically sophisticated but easy-to-follow workbook and accompanying CD offer a highly effective, insight-oriented approach to ending compulsive eating. These resources provide the map to: experience joy and ease around food; determine your body’s natural weight without dieting; manage uncomfortable feelings without using food; discover the messages underlying your emotional eating; and develop a new and caring relationship with your body. (BOOK and CD)

Food and Mood (PTS Well-Lunch Lectures)
by Dorothy Borrensen

Lecture at PTS, Winter 2010. (DVD)

The Hungry Self: Women, Eating and Identity
by Kim Chernin

Some five million American women suffer from eating disorders ranging from compulsive dieting to compulsive eating, anorexia to bulimia. The Hungry Self explores the often troubled relationship between mothers and daughters, and the latter’s reluctance to grow away from and perhaps beyond the former to achieve the independence and autonomy expected of them in today’s world. Instead, daughters of all ages and backgrounds flee the struggle for identity and self-development into an obsession with food. (BOOK)

Overcoming Stress-Related Emotional Eating
by Edward Abramson

Do you ever soothe yourself with food after a bad day at work? Do you ever reward yourself with sweets after you’ve done something good? These are both examples of emotional eating. Research shows that controlling emotional eating is essential to maintain successful weight loss. This CD focuses on the types of emotional eating and how you can control your emotions and curb your cravings. (CD - 58 minutes)

The Secret Language of Eating Disorders: The Revolutionary New Approach to Understanding and Curing Anorexia and Bulimia
by Peggy Claude-Pierre

Claude-Pierre is convinced that anorexia is a symptom of a larger problem -- that of a damaged self -- and not a disease. Founder of the world-renowned eating disorders program at the Montreux Clinic in Victoria, BC, she puts damaging myths about anorexia and bulimia to rest and reveals her groundbreaking theories on the ultimate cure for illnesses that current medicine treats with little success. This book details her theories on the true causes of eating disorders and lays out the basis of the Montreux program. Claude-Pierre describes the origins of the negative mindset and the five stages of recovery from eating disorders, spotlights the special challenges of coping with them, and offers clear, practical guidelines to working effectively with health professionals. Voices of former patients are woven throughout the book, sharing messages of hope from victims and their loved ones. (BOOK)

The Twelve Steps of Overeaters Anonymous
This resource offers an extensive overview of OA’s recovery program from the compulsive overeater’s perspective. This audiobook provides a step-by-step guide to OA’s twelve-step program. Whether you’re a novice or an experienced member you’ll feel the collective support of all those who are striving to recover. (CASSETTE - 3 hours)

 
Wintergirls
by Laurie Halse Anderson

A novel that explores one girl’s chilling descent into the all-consuming chill of anorexia. Lia and Cassie were best friends, but now Cassie is dead. Lia’s mother is busy saving other people’s lives. Her father is away on business. Her stepmother is clueless. The voice inside Lia’s head keeps telling her remain in control, stay strong, lose more, weigh less. If she keeps on going this way¬--thin, thinner, thinnest--she’ll disappear altogether. (BOOK)
 
Women, Food and God
by Geneen Roth

According to Roth, many women become self-loathing through a combination of the utter inefficacy of dieting and a lack of spiritual nourishment. Roth has taken the sum total of her experience and combined it with spirituality and psychology to explain women's true hunger. Roth's approach to eating is that it is the same as any addiction - an activity to avoid feeling emotions. Whether the drug is booze or brownies, the problem is the same: opting out of life. She powerfully urges readers to pay attention to what they truly need - which cannot be found in a supermarket. She provides seven basic guidelines for eating (the most important is to never diet) and shares reassuring, practical advice that has helped thousands of women who have attended her highly successful seminars. (BOOK) *This book pairs well with Bite By Bite (CD - see above)*

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FAMILY/PARENTING
see also DIVORCE / INFIDELITY ; MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIPS

At My Father’s Wedding: Reclaiming Our True Masculinity
by John Lee

Lee explains why most men today grew up without the benefit of real fathering and shows how to heal the wounded relationships of fathers and sons. The legacy of the missing father is a life of troubled relationships, addictive behaviors, crises, and a deep inner woundedness that leads to emotional numbness, rage, and unhappiness. In this book, Lee shows how to get past and over this “father wound” as he shares his own struggle to come to terms with his father and to recover from a troubled childhood. He tells how all men can let go of the past, of false and hurtful images of men and manhood, and reclaim themselves, their sense of identity, and their self-esteem. Lee writes about the many different father types, the different wounds they leave and then points the way to self-understanding and healing. (BOOK)

Between Parent and Child
by Haim Ginott

Ginott’s innovative approach to parenting has influenced an entire generation of experts in the field. Ginott offers a straightforward prescription for empathetic yet disciplined child rearing and introduces new communication techniques that have changed the way parents speak with, and listen to, their children. Among other skills, this book teaches parents how to: praise children for their actions, not their existence; criticize a particular act rather than generally denigrating a child; avoid threats, bribes, and sarcasm to improve parent child communication. (BOOK)

The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis
(see HEALING )

The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self
by Alice Miller

As charming performers who skillfully reflect their parents’ expectations, far too many children grow into adults driven to greater and greater achievements by an underlying sense of worthlessness. Never allowed to express their true feelings, and having lost touch with their true selves, they act out their repressed feelings with episodes of depression and compulsive behavior. They in turn inflict the same legacy of repression on their own children. This book shows how narcissistic parents form and deform the lives of their children. The Drama of the Gifted Child can help readers reclaim their lives by discovering their own needs and their own truth. (BOOK)

The Heart of Parenting: Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child
by John Gottman

In this live presentation, Gottman provides an overview of how to raise an emotionally intelligent child and how to be an "emotion coach.” Learn about using emotional expression as an opportunity for intimacy and teaching, listening and verbalizing a child's feelings, labeling emotions in words a child can understand, and helping children problem-solve. (VHS - 90 minutes)

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

There is a way to bridge the generation gap, say child experts Faber and Mazlish, and the methods they describe in this book have been used by many parents. They teach communication and discipline without alienating kids and aggravating the problem. Undesirable behavior, they say, is often met with remarks that make children feel endangered or unloved. The authors present scenarios and dialogues demonstrating common mistakes that exacerbate the problem. Topics addressed include: coping with a child's negative feelings (such as anger or sadness); setting limits while maintaining good relations; and resolving family conflicts without waging war.

Kids, Parents and Power Struggles: Winning for a Lifetime
by Mary Kurcinka

Every family experiences inevitable tugs of war between parents and children. This audiobook can help you to unravel the mysteries of power struggles by offering insights into individual differences and normal patterns, recognizing that every child is unique and every discipline situation is different. Kurcinka views power struggles as an opportunity to teach your child essential life skills, such as how to calm oneself, to be assertive, to solve problems and to work cooperatively with you and others. Included are successful strategies for: understanding emotions, managing intensity, and identifying triggers. (Cassette - 180 minutes)

Legacy of the Heart: The Spiritual Advantage of a Painful Childhood by Wayne Muller (see HEALING )

Making Peace with Your Parents: The Key to Enriching Your Life and All Your Relationships by Harold Bloomfield
Learn to recognize and understand the extent to which the parent-child relationship affects one's daily life. Whether parents are alive or deceased, one needs to resolve the issues concerning the relationship with parents to be completely fulfilled and happy. (BOOK)

The Mom Factor: Dealing with the Mother You Had, Didn’t Have, or Still Contend With
by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

This book steers you down a path of discovery and growth beyond the effects of six common mothering styles: the phantom mom; the china doll mom; the controlling mom; the trophy mom; the still-the-boss mom; the American Express mom. Cloud and Townsend show you how your mom affected you as a child and may still be affecting you today. You’ll find a hopeful, realistic approach to identifying your unmet mothering needs and filling them in healthy, life-changing ways through other people. This book provides a biblical route to wholeness and growth, deeper and more satisfying bonds with your family, friends, and spouse--and a new, healthier way of relating to your mother today. (BOOK)

The Mother Dance: How Children Change Your Life
by Harriet Lerner

With personal stories and vivid case studies that run the gamut from the hilarious to the heart-wrenching, Lerner spells out what children evoke from the past and demand from the present—and why her new life is so different from his new life—when two become three. Lerner's own experience taught her the basic lessons of motherhood; that we are not in control of what happens to our children, and that this fact needn't stop us from feeling totally guilty and responsible, that matters of life and death turn on a dime, and that most of what we worry about doesn't happen. From birth to the empty nest, Lerner helps mothers distinguish between what we can change, (and how to do it) and when we need to surrender to the fact that our lives—and our children's'—don't go the way we expect or plan. Her book is filled with reassurances and good advice about being a mother in today's world. (BOOK)

New Skills for Frazzled Parents: The Instruction Manual That Should Have Come with Your Child
by Daniel Amen

Parenting a child is one of the most important responsibilities any of us ever undertake. Yet it does not require any special training period or any prior experience. Parenting difficult children requires "superior" parenting skills. This program is designed to give you the best parenting skills in a fun and practical way. It will give you clear, quick, and lasting results. Dr. Amen has taught this parenting course for the past fifteen years. It is by far one of the most effective tools for helping kids who struggle. (BOOK)

Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive
by Daniel J. Siegel and Mary Hartzell

In this book child psychiatrist Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and early childhood expert Mary Hartzell, M.Ed., explore the extent to which our childhood experiences shape the way we parent. Drawing upon stunning findings in neurobiology and attachment research, they explain how interpersonal relationships directly impact the development of the brain, and offer parents a step-by-step approach to forming a deeper under-standing of their own life stories, which will help them raise compassionate and resilient children. Born out of a Siegel's cutting-edge research on how communication impacts brain development with Hartzell's experience as a child-development specialist and parent educator, this book guides parents through creating the necessary foundations for loving and secure relationships with their children. (BOOK)

Raising a Thinking Child: Teaching Young Children How to Resolve Everyday Conflicts and Get Along with Others
by Myrna Shure

For parents of children ages 4-7. This workbook is based on the highly acclaimed I Can Problem Solve (ICPS) approach for use in schools. It stands alone as a practical parenting manual and also serves as the ideal ICPS parent involvement component. Educators can use the workbook with parents to help reinforce ICPS classroom lessons at home. The workbook's pages are packed with dozens of activities that invite parents and children as young as four to play games, to draw, and to color the reproducible illustrations. And while children are having fun, they will also be learning ICPS thinking skills. Children learn how to think, not what to think. They learn to decide on solutions based on consequences. (BOOK)

The Shelter of Each Other: Rebuilding Our Families
by Mary Pipher

Pipher addresses the needs of the family as the foundational source of the strength and health in every culture and society. While she shares the alarm of many observers regarding the bewildering array of societal, cultural, and economic pressures impinging upon families in the late 1990s, Pipher has little use for jeremiads. She is interested in offering thoughtful, practical strategies to reach families where they are, and to help them call upon the reserves of mutual nurture and support that lie in "the shelter of each other." (BOOK)

Sisters: Love and Rivalry Inside the Family and Beyond
by Elizabeth Fishel

Fishel writes about the ways a women’s life is shaped and influenced by having a sister, from the moment she is born through old age and death. It explores the depth and breadth of sisters’ relationships through the life-cycle, through closeness, distance and ambivalence, through rivalry and love, in the family and beyond. Fishel studies sisters’ relationships from youth to age, using questionnaires and interviews. Issues examined in the book are: the messages of birth order and the dynamics of the family crucible; patterns of roles, of rivalry, and of polarities; and their magnetic influence on each other’s emerging sexuality, and each other’s identities as women. (BOOK)

Spoiling Childhood: How Well-Meaning Parents Are Giving Children Too Much - But Not What They Need
by Diane Ehrensaft

Vividly encapsulating the absurdities, heartbreaks, and possibilities of contemporary child rearing, this book shows how parents today are all too often caught up in a guilt-driven pendulum swing between parenting too little and parenting too much. Dr. Ehrensaft helps us imagine a society where we can overcome the treacherous balancing acts of work and family demands; where "good-enough" replaces perfect parenting, harriedness is traded for harmony, and children grow on a healthy continuum from infancy to adulthood. (BOOK)

Toddlers and Parents: A Declaration of Independence
by T. Berry Brazelton

Life with a toddler can be sorely trying for the beleaguered parent. The constant demands and questions, the obstinacy and tantrums--all of these reflect the toddler’s growing need for independence and self-mastery. Brazelton offers practical advice for surviving--and enjoying--the struggles and triumphs of children at this age. Sibling rivalry, relationships with mother and father, language development, interactive play--these and many other topics are discussed. (BOOK)

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GENERAL WELL-BEING
see also PERSONAL GROWTH / SELF-ESTEEM ; POSTIVE PSYCHOLOGY 

100% Nature Sounds: Ocean Waves
by Nature’s Creations

A recording of the Pacific surf at night. No wind, no boats, no noise. As the sun set and a crescent moon rose, rhythmic waves began breaking smooth and slow across the sands of Washington’s Olympic Coast. (CD - 60 minutes)

100% Nature Sounds: Rain and Thunder
by Nature’s Creations

This recording captures the pure and refreshing sounds of rain and thunder. Use it to soothe the soul, refresh the mind and rest the body. (CD - 60 minutes)

Change Your Brain, Change Your Body: Use Your Brain to Get and Keep the Body You Have Always Wanted
by Daniel Amen

According to Amen, the key to a better body—in shape, energized, and youthful—is a healthy brain. Based on his two decades of clinical practice and the latest medical research, Dr. Amen provides fifteen practical, easy-to-implement solutions involving nutritious foods, natural supplements and vitamins, positive-thinking habits, and, when necessary, highly targeted medications. This book strives to help you: reach and maintain your ideal weight; reduce the stress that can impair your immune system; sharpen your memory; increase willpower and eliminate the cravings that keep you from achieving your exercise and diet goals; lower your blood pressure without medication; avoid depression and elevate the enjoyment you take in life’s pleasures; and more. (BOOK)

General Wellness (Health Journeys)
By Belleruth Naparstek

This guided imagery is an all-purpose, healing meditation, with rich images of how the body rids itself of unhealthy cells and replaces them with healthy new growth. It includes lush, uplifting metaphors. (CD - 42 minutes)

 Guided Meditation: Six Essential Practices to Cultivate Love, Awareness, and Wisdom
by Jack Kornfield

Celebrated teacher Jack Kornfield leads listeners through six essential meditations, a simple way to progressively deepen a practice, whatever your level of experience. Two transformational CDs include: Breath, meditation for stilling the body and quieting the mind; Mind Like Sky, meditation for releasing the ego's attachments and resting in pure awareness; Visualization, practice to meet the inner sage; and more. Meditation has its challenges, especially for beginners. With practices you can listen to again and again, Guided Meditation gives listeners a concise training of the heart and mind to enjoy the fruits of this centuries-old art. (CD)
 
Healing Tides
by Relaxation for Women

This recording is designed to relieve anxiety and tension. Create balance in your life by designating a daily routine of meditation. Quiet the mind by focusing on an object. Clear the mind. Take deep breaths and focus your attention on your breathing. Let the soothing sounds of the ocean and instrumental music guide you in your journey toward deep relaxation. (CD)

Living the Field: Tapping into the Secret Force of the Universe
by Lynne McTaggart
Lynne McTaggart provides practical instruction for harnessing the power of the immeasurable energy source called the "Zero-Point Field" for our own empowerment, healing, and transformation. With methods refined in over six years of teaching her sold-out workshops, McTaggart guides listeners through a broad variety of techniques to tap the limitless power of the "secret force of the universe" for energizing our personal health, developing skills for distance healing, awakening our psychic abilities, and much more. (CD)

 Living without Stress or Fear: Essential Teaching on the True Source of Happiness
by Thich Nhat Hanh

A life without stress or fear may seem like an impossible dream—yet Thich Nhat Hanh has spent a lifetime proving that it is not only possible, it is also within our grasp. On Living Without Stress or Fear, this treasured Zen master shares a message of hope: that we can, through the practice of mindfulness, find freedom from the grip of emotions like anxiety, anger, and despair. “Suffering persists because we nourish the feelings that cause it,” reveals Thich Nhat Hanh. “Through mindful living, we learn to nourish our compassionate nature instead.” (6 CDs)

Mindful Movements
by Thich Nhat Hanh

This DVD, beautifully shot with the nuns and monks of Plum Village, Vietnam, demonstrates a daily contemplative exercise of 10 mindful movements. The movements are first led by Brother Michael, who is American and easy to understand, and then repeated with the ageless master, Thich Nhat Hanh. (DVD - 36 minutes)

Optimizing Your Health (PTS Well-Lunch Lectures
by Kate Thomsen

Lecture series from PTS, Winter 2010. (DVD)

Peace of Mind Is a Breath Away: Breathing Free Meditations
by Yanni Maniates

According to Maniates, your breath is the fundamental tool with which you can regularly release stress and bring a profound sense of peace and joy into your life. The guided mediations and instructions on this CD will give you the vital tools you need to learn how to access this peace and to feel calm even in the midst of a busy, active life. (CD)

Psychosomatic Wellness: Guided Meditations, Affirmations and Music to Heal Your Bodymind
by Candace Pert
If our bodies are in a state of constant vibration, can the right music tune our cells to good health? Dr. Candace Pert's research has revealed that it can. It has been proven that the molecules of our bodies—not just our ears and brains—actually resonate with the music we hear. Psychosomatic Wellness features healing music and guided meditation created with cutting-edge scientific research about which sound frequencies allow us to achieve harmonious integration of our bodyminds, to literally reprogram every cell to a state of greater health. With flute, percussion, vocals, and bass. (CD)

Relaxing Sounds
This recording has 30 minutes each relaxing sounds of wind chimes and ocean waves. (CD)

 Sleep Better
by Michael Reed Gach

Gach makes it easy to understand the basics of his safe, natural self-healing system that regulates the flow of chi by using acupressure - fingertip massage applied to the body's vital points to discharge harmful stress and toxins, providing relief in seconds. This simple, self-paced program includes guided exercises combining simple breathing techniques, self-care acupressure points, and gentle stretching to help the listener achieve a deeper, more restful sleep. These routines are simple, straightforward, and effective, and can be practiced nearly anywhere and at any time. (CD)

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GRIEF

Ease Grief (Health Journeys)
by Belleruth Naparstek

This guided imagery takes listeners on a journey back to their aching hearts, where they discover that everything lost is still alive. Designed to help people tolerate, experience and get beyond their pain, it’s a favorite in grief support groups. (CD - 48 minutes)

Living Beyond Loss: Death in the Family
by Froma Walsh and Monica McGoldrick

This is the authoritative volume on the impact of death on the family system. Therapeutic guidelines are offered for working with the mourning process and resolving long-term complications. This collection of essays addresses a wide range of issues related to loss, including the family life cycle, mourning in different cultures, adolescent suicide, death and despair in addict families and death in a therapist’s own family. (BOOK)

Necessary Losses: The Loves, Illusions, Dependencies, and Impossible Expectations That All of Us Have to Give Up in Order to Grow
by Judith Viorst

This book examines loss as a necessary experience for personal growth. Viorst takes readers through the typical moments of loss throughout life--from maternal separation to shifting friendships, from divorce to old age. This life-affirming, life-changing, and timeless book is filled with wise and witty insights into how we all must adjust to the changes that are an inevitable part of life. (BOOK)

Traveling through Grief: Learning to Live Again After the Death of a Loved One
by Susan Zonnebelt-Smeenge and Robert DeVries

This book serves as a compassionate resource to help you find your road to recovery and discover a fulfilling life after the death of a loved one or friend. The authors, both of whom lost spouses before marrying each other, are grief counselors who show you five specific tasks to work through to aid in healing. From exploring your feelings to sifting through memories, reshaping a sense of self-identity to reengaging in your own life, these crucial tasks help you handle grief with purpose and intention. The authors describe how loss affects both your spiritual and mental well-being. (BOOK)

When Mourning Breaks: Coping with Miscarriage
by Melissa Sexson Hanson

Couples who suffer a miscarriage often feel alone in their grieving, and without access to rituals that can provide comfort and closure. Friends and families don’t always know what to say or do to be helpful. This is a book for the grieving parents, which acknowledges the pain of their loss and which offers encouragement for the future. Hanson writes personally and movingly of her own experiences with miscarraige, of the grief and sadness, and of the difficulty of the recovery process. She also writes of hopefulness and of God's healing presence in her life. In meditations and prayers based on biblical (NRSV) passages, Hanson offers hope and comfort to couples during this painful time. A helpful resource for family, friends, pastors, and counselors who wish to be supportive. (BOOK)

When Your Parent Dies
by Ron Klug

Even though the death of a parent is expected, the loss presents both unique challenges and opportunities for personal and spiritual growth. This brief, focused book guides adults through this difficult time. Drawing on his own experience and that of others, the author offers immediate comfort, support and practical suggestions for the first weeks of bereavement. (BOOK)

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HEALING

 Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused As a Child
by Laura Davis

Based on in-depth interviews and her workshops for partners across the country, Laura Davis offers practical advice and encouragement to all partners -- girlfriends, boyfriends, spouses, and lovers -- trying to support the survivors in their lives while tending to their own needs along the way. She shows couples how to deepen compassion, improve communication, and develop an understanding of healing as a shared activity. Allies in Healing answers common questions about sexual abuse; introduces key concepts of working and growing together; teaches partners to recognize, value, and express their own needs; includes strategies for handling suicidal feelings, regression, and hopelessness; offers practical advice on dealing with distancing, control, trust, and fighting; provides guidelines for coping with flashbacks, lack of desire, differences in sexual needs, and frustration; suggests a range of ideas for interacting with the survivor's family; and explores the struggles, triumphs, and courage of eight partners. (BOOK)

Break Through Difficult Emotions: How to Transform Painful Feelings with Mindfulness Meditation
by Shinzen Young

In Break Through Difficult Emotions , meditation mentor Shinzen Young adapts the core principles of mindfulness training to the treatment of emotional suffering. You will learn powerful meditations for overcoming anger, grief, anxiety, shame, and the many other painful emotions we all experience. Four step-by-step exercises cover how to: deconstruct any emotion into its harmless components; identify the location, shape, and flow of your emotions; melt frozen emotions into their natural, fluid state; untangle emotional confusion by watching your thoughts; transform negative emotions into positive ones; and much more. (2 CDs - 2.5 hours)

The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis

This is a comprehensive guide that offers hope and encouragement to every woman who was sexually abused as a child--and those who care about her. Although the effects of abuse are long-term and severe, healing is possibly. The authors weave personal experience with professional knowledge to show the reader how she can come to terms with her past while moving powerfully into the future. They provide clear explanations, practical suggestions, a map of the healing journey, and many moving first-person examples of the recovery process drawn from their interviews with hundreds of survivors. (BOOK)

Dreams and Healing: A Succinct and Lively Interpretation of Dreams
by John Sanford

Sanford addresses the growing interest in dreams taking into account both spiritual and scientific views. He describes the unfolding of a series of dreams reported to him by a university student and a middle-aged woman, and connects their dreams to their waking lives. He presents dreams as a wealth of creative possibilities, locked in the unconscious, on which we can draw by learning to understand and relate them to our lives. (BOOK)

Eight Meditations for Optimum Health
by Andrew Weil

Access your own natural healing ability with the help of this expert in holistic health. This resource includes a step by step guide for listening to the meditations and learning to apply them to your own life. (CD - 69 minutes)

The Essence of Soaking Prayer
by Nigel Mumford

Soaking Prayer is an extended period of prayer with a very focused intention. This CD is designed to be used in conjuction with Mumford’s book, The Practice of Soaking Prayer. Suitable for an individual or group prayer session. Produced by the Healing Ministry of Christ the King Spiritual Life Center, where Mumford serves as an Episcopal priest. (CD)

Essential Guide for Healers
by Caroline Myss

Choosing to be a healer comes with serious spiritual and energetic demands, and it is crucial to understand and prepare for them. Caroline Myss shares her most valuable insights and recommendations for health care professionals, counselors, therapists, body workers, and anyone serving to heal others. Drawing on her own experience as a medical intuitive (one who discerns illness and its root causes in the body), Caroline Myss invites you to explore: The healer archetype—which specific healing arts are you meant to practice?; How the cosmos trains healers, and ways to open yourself to its lessons; Knowing when not to intervene as a healer; Understanding psychic exhaustion, contamination, and other dangers, and how to protect yourself; How your appointment to help others changes as your own inner evolution unfolds, and much more. (CD)

Heartfelt Prayers for Healing
by Nigel Mumford

A collection of scriptures, stories and prayers written to help individuals in their daily lives as they focus on physical and emotional healing. (BOOK)

Legacy of the Heart: The Spiritual Advantage of a Painful Childhood
by Wayne Muller

This book provides a gentle approach to uncovering a source of spiritual strength hidden in the scars of childhood. Muller outlines a healing program derived from the teachings of many different religions and spiritual traditions. (BOOK)

The Practice of Soaking Prayer
by Nigel Mumford

The purpose of this booklet is to encourage, uplift, support, and give confidence to individuals and prayer teams interested in soaking prayer, a method and practice of entering into deeper and more compassionate prayer for the dis-eased. (BOOK)

Prayer, Stress, and Our Inner Wounds
by Flora Slosson Wuellner

This book offers practical ways by which prayer can help us experience inner healing. The emphasis is upon the grace of God's love rather than rigid discipline and techniques. Flora Slosson Wuellner, a retired minister in the United Church of Christ, is known for her writings and retreat leadership focusing on the inner healing God offers through Christ. (BOOK)

Relaxation and Healing Prayer
by Nigel Mumford

Sounds for relaxation and a prayer for healing: “My prayer for you is that you may find the healing grace of Jesus Christ through the spoken word. I pray that you may give yourself permission to fall asleep while being filled with the Word of God.” (CD - 36 minutes)

Speak, My Sister, Speak! An Empowering Guide for Dealing with Relationship Violence (and other forms of abuse) in the Faith-Based Community
by Lisa Williams, Lori Williams and Millie Barber

Coming from a spiritual foundation, this resource presents legal, medical and educational perspectives while offering timely tools and information, practical suggestions and inspirational encouragement for survivors, educators, legal advocates, health care professionals, family and friends. (BOOK)

The 31-Day Healing Devotional
by Nigel Mumford

A collection of meditations designed by Mumford to be used daily “as a vehicle to bring you into His courts with thanksgiving and praise that you may be filled will the compassion and healing presence of our Lord Jesus Christ.” (BOOK)

Transforming Trauma: A Seven-Step Process for Spiritual Healing
by Caroline Myss and James Finley

To heal trauma, we have to start with its origin: disconnection from spiritual experience. Caroline Myss and James Finley's first audio-learning course on how combining contemplative and clinical practices can dramatically enhance our ability to heal. Myss describes trauma as a gateway to transformation that beckons each one of us to the next phase of human evolution. Finley teaches a seven-step process for spiritual healing, including how to follow the lead of mystics across the ages in the practice of meditation. The seminar concludes by revealing why trauma “shatters our survival instinct”—and how the path of the mystic can return us to wholeness. Suffering is an inherent part of an authentic spiritual life—but so is the liberation we find by working through it. With Transforming Trauma, now you have the support of two modern luminaries as you yourself become a healing presence for our collective human family. (CD)

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ILLNESS/SURGERY

Hard Choices for Loving People: CPR, Artificial Feeding, Comfort Care and the Patient with a Life-Threatening Illness
by Hank Dunn

This book covers the most common medical treatment decisions faced by those who are living with a life-threatening illness. CPR (resuscitation efforts), artificial feeding, hospitalization of an ill person and shifting to a hospice approach are all considered in depth. There are sections on ventilators, dialysis, antibiotics and pain control. This book is not just for the elderly but for anyone facing a life-threatening illness, including parents whose child is ill. (BOOK)
*complete text available online - http://www.hardchoices.com/about_hc.html *

How To Live Between Office Visits: A Guide to Life, Love and Health
by Bernie Siegel

In an intimate, inspirational book, oncologist Dr. Bernie Siegel provides readers with healthy ways to respond to life's challenges and difficulties, answers the questions he is most commonly asked, and addresses concerns we all have about illness and survival. (BOOK)

Light in the Shadows: Meditations While Living with a Life-Threatening Illness
by Hank Dunn

A sequel to Hard Choices for Loving People , this book is about finding hope in hopeless situations; being grateful in the midst of great losses; experiencing a connection to things eternal; living a meaningful life while considering the possibility of death; and getting to the root issues in medical treatment decisions. These pages contain insight gathered from patients throughout Dunn’s career as a chaplain. Patient stories are presented as meditations, intended to be companions for those with a life-threatening illness and their families. (BOOK)
*complete text available online - http://www.hardchoices.com/about_light.html *

Prepare for Surgery, Heal Faster: A Guide of Mind-Body Techniques
by Peggy Huddleston

Huddleston, a psychotherapist, helps the reader feel calmer before surgery, strengthen their immune system, have less pain after surgery and heal faster. Using relaxation, visualization & therapeutic statements spoken during surgery, readers learn how their positive emotions and the human spirit enhance healing. Medical research shows that people who utilize strategies to cope with the emotional stress of surgery recover sooner with less pain. (BOOK)

Successful Surgery (Health Journeys)
by Belleruth Naparstek

This guided imagery, found to be highly effective in double blind, placebo-controlled research, creates the context for a successful, safe and comfortable surgery, complete with suggestions to reduce bleeding and speed up mending with minimal discomfort. A separate music track can be played in the O.R., and affirmations focus on the recovery period. (CD - 81 minutes)

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INFIDELITY (see DIVORCE / INFIDELITY )

LEADERSHIP (see PERSONAL GROWTH / SELF-ESTEEM)

MARRIAGE / RELATIONSHIPS

see also DIVORE / INFIDELITY ; FAMILY / PARENTING

A Couple’s Guide to Communication
by John Gottman

This book offers practical skills and techniques based on extensive observation of distressed and non-distressed couples and their differing problem-solving methods. Chapters include: Listening and Validation; Leveling; Editing; Negotiating Agreements; Hidden Agendas; Solving Your Sexual Problems; Getting Through a Crisis; Making a Good Thing Better; and Getting Out of a Bad Marriage. Contains practice exercises, inventories, an assessment self-test, and a troubleshooting guide. Marriage therapists have Gottman’s books on their short list. (BOOK)

ADD in Intimate Relationships: A Comprehensive Guide for Couples
by Daniel Amen
(see ADD/ADHD )

The Anger Work-Out Book: Step-By-Step Methods for Greater Productivity, Better Relationships, and Healthier Life
by Hendrie Weisenger
(see ANGER )

Attracting Genuine Love: A Step-By-Step Program to Bring a Loving and Desirable Partner Into Your Life
by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks

The Hendricks distill their essential principles for finding--and keeping--love into one results-oriented program. From them, you will: learn the must-haves and deal-breakers essential for relationship success; remove the #1 obstacle preventing you from having the relationship you wan; and discover the power of fearless honesty, moment-by-moment communication, and the three other "real rules" to create a conscious relationship. The book is paired with a CD that offers 8 excellent meditations. (BOOK)

The Conscious Bride: Women Unveil Their True Feelings about Getting Hitched
by Sheryl Nissinen

While family and future in-laws squabble over the menu and the table decorations, brides are supposed to sit, smile, and bask in the prospect of their happiness, even though that prospect is guaranteed to include the post-wedding depression that hits some 90 percent of women during their first year of marriage. This is a must-have book for any woman who has found the partner she wants to be with for the rest of her life and has made up her mind to celebrate that commitment. Bridal counselor Sheryl Paul interviewed a diverse group of women who share their true feelings about the many concerns that can make an engagement a roller coaster of emotional ups and downs. Along with practical advice and support, you will find welcome acknowledgement of shared doubts and fears that so often run amok as wedding bells take their toll. (BOOK)

 Counseling for Couples: Understanding and Improving Love
by Gary Brainerd

This 5-disc audio workshop presents a very positive view of marriage and all intimate, committed relationships, but one that is not well understood by couples and many therapists. Participants will see that the source of conflict is closely related to the unconscious aspects of the attraction to 'this particular person and that the love connection that follows and ultimately results in conflict also contains the potential for significant growth, passion, love and healing. The skilled couple's therapist must be a good educator, motivator and trainer. Participants will gain skills and tools to motivate couples to actively participate in understanding their frustrations and in developing relationship skills. Walk away with the knowledge to guide couples in a step-by-step manner to learn what the sources of their struggles are and how to separate these sources from the everyday triggers with kindness and empathy. (5 CDs)

The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships
by Harriet Goldhor Lerner

This excellent classic helps women and men turn anger into a constructive force. Lerner moves readers away from silence, ineffective fighting and blame as she explains how relationship patterns operate and how to change one's own steps in the dance. This audiobook addresses the difficulties and effort involved in changing established patterns. (Audiobook CD - 180 minutes)

The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You’re Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate
by Harriet Goldhor Lerner

In this resource, Lerner teaches how to restore love and connection with the people who matter the most. Filled with compelling personal stories and case examples, Lerner outlines bold new “voice-lessons” that demonstrates how to speak with honor and personal integrity, even when the other person behaves badly. Whether you’re dealing with a partner, parent, sister, or best friend, The Dance of Connection teaches how to navigate the most important relationships with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction. (BOOK)

The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships
by Harriet Goldhor Lerner

This sensible self-help book draws on family-systems therapy in recommending thoughtful "self-focus" for women stuck in difficult relationships with either mates or families. Emphasizing that "a truly intimate relationship is one in which we can be who we are, which means being open about ourselves," highlights the importance of women defining themselves, their needs and limits, rather than reacting to anxiety unthinkingly--either by emotionally distancing themselves from problems or by overreacting. Lerner illustrates her points with case studies from her family as well as her practice. To explore what unhelpful patterns of behavior may be passed down from past generations, she advises creating a genogram, or family diagram, going back to a person's grandparents or earlier. Lerner’s books have been on the best-seller list for good reason. (Audiobook CD and BOOK available)

The Enneagram in Love and Work: Understanding Your Intimate and Business Relationships
by Helen Palmer
(see STRENGTHS / PERSONALITY TYPES )

Every Minister Needs a Lover, Just Be Sure It’s Your Spouse
by Paul and Sybil Eppinger
(see VOCATION / MINISTRY )

The First Two Years of Marriage
by Thomas and Kathleen Hart

This is an excellent book for people who are thinking about getting married, or who are newly married. The book outlines potential obstacles in the first two years of marriage and gives you useful tools for building your relationship. It’s a short, non-technical book that opens your eyes to some issues you might not readily see when in the haze of new love. (BOOK)

The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate
by Gary Chapman

This oft-quoted book reveals the profound satisfaction and joy of being able to express your love in a manner that it is interpreted in the right sense. Chapman believes that a healthy marriage is one in which two partners grow toward one another, and good communication is essential to that growth. He acknowledges that any two people may give and receive love in very different ways. He identifies five "languages," or ways of communicating affection: Quality Time; Words of Affirmation; Gifts; Acts of Service; and Physical Touch. He shows couples how an appreciation of their partner's "language" can make communication possible, strengthen the love bond, and lead to a growing marriage. (BOOK)

Friends, Partners and Lovers: Marks of a Vital Marriage
by Warren Lane Molton

Within a context of faith, Molton provides a personal yet practical view of marriage as a never-changing covenant between a man and a woman to “do life together.” Molton describes six models of marriage characterized by non-constructive patterns of relating and contrasts them with three roles that help to strengthen marriage: friend, partner, and lover. Includes sound advice on improving communication within a marriage, as partners confront their own fears and anger. (BOOK)

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples
by Harville Hendrix

In this book, Hendrix describes how unconscious dynamics from our childhood powerfully influence mate selection so that we inadvertently recreate the patterns and feelings we had hoped to leave behind. This eye-opening, hopeful book will increase understanding and empathy for yourself and your partner. There are excellent exercises for couples in the appendix. (BOOK)

The Good Marriage and Why Love Lasts
by Judith Wallerstein

A psychotherapist who is a renowned expert on divorce, Wallerstein now looks at happy marriages and what makes them work. This is a study of 50 Bay Area couples, who married in the 1950s, 1960s, 1970s, and 1980s. The criteria for the couples were that both husband and wife had to consider the marriage a happy one, have at least one child, and to have been married a minimum of nine years; both first and second marriages. (BOOK)

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
by Sue Johnson

Developed by the author over 20 years ago and practiced all over the world, Emotionally Focused Therapy has a higher success rate than other forms of relationship therapy. EFT enhances the emotional connection of every relationship by de-escalating conflict, creating a safe emotional connection, and strengthening bonds between partners. Hold Me Tight introduces readers to EFT and illustrates a program they can use in their own relationships. Part I introduces the cutting-edge view of love as an attachment bond and applies this lens to relationship problems. Part II offers seven "conversations" that focus on key moments. Readers will gain many useful insights and enjoy the exercises which make EFT doable. (BOOK)

Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate Lovemaking
by Patricia Love

This book includes a nine-step program that starts with a self-quiz for each partner for determining "sexual style." This helps pinpoint which areas need to be worked on, such as resolving differences in desire--one of the most common problems among long-term couples. Communication is a big topic, but another painless quiz helps reveal romantic expectations both in and out of bed to help clarify exactly where overlooked problems may be festering. Then comes technique. The chapter "Variety: How to Have More Fun in Bed" discusses sex toys, fantasy, sex games, and other forms of experimentation. The book includes contact information for sexual products that can be sent to you confidentially, as well as guidelines and resources for seeing a sex therapist. Pat Love “researches the research” and therapists frequently recommend her books and flock to her seminars. (BOOK)

How to Improve Your Marriage without Talking About It
by Patricia Love and Steven Stosny

According to studies conducted by the authors, even with the best of intentions, talking about your relationship often doesn’t bring couples together, and may eventually drive them apart. The reason for this is that underneath most couples’ fights, there is a biological difference at work; a woman’s vulnerability to fear and anxiety makes her draw closer, while a man’s subtle sensitivity to shame makes him pull away in response. This leads to the archetypal roles of nagging wife/stonewalling husband. Love and Stosny teach couples how to get closer in ways that don’t require “trying to turn a man into a woman.” The book is rich with stories of couples who have turned their marriages around, and full of practical advice about the behaviors that make and break marriages. (BOOK)

How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage
by Milan and Kay Yerkovich

This book draws on the powerful tool of attachment theory to show how your early life experiences created an “intimacy imprint”–an underlying blueprint that shapes your behavior, beliefs, and expectations of all relationships, especially your marriage. They identify four types of injured imprints that combine in marriage to trap couples in a repetitive dance of pain. The groundbreaking principles and practical, solution-focused tools in this book will equip you to: identify the imprints disrupting your marriage; understand how your love style impacts your mate; break free of negative patterns that hinder your relationship; enhance your sexual intimacy; and create the deeper, richer marriage of your dreams. The writers come from a Christian background although the book is not written for a Christian audience. (BOOK)

How We Love Workbook: Making Deeper Connections in Marriage
by Milan and Kay Yerkovich

This powerful companion guidebook–perfect for use on your own or in a group setting–will help you apply the principles from How We Love to break free of the harmful imprints of the past. Inside you’ll find practical, solution-focused tools for building a stronger, more passionate marriage, including: specific questions to help you and your spouse pinpoint barriers to intimacy; an assessment tool for identifying your intimacy imprint; strategic guidance in applying the principles for increasing intimacy; effective techniques to kick-start the process of lasting change; and a plan for developing clear, personalized goals for your marriage relationship. (WORKBOOK)

Inhibited Sexual Desire
by Jennifer Knopf and Michael Seiler

Knopf and Seiler explore in detail the problem that causes more patients than any other to seek the help of sex therapists: inhibited sexual desire (ISD). A problem facing two-career couples, single people, and the long-time married, ISD results from a combination of factors. The skillful use of case histories illustrates how such factors as desire differences, family background, present and past relationships, and outside stresses affect sexuality. Step-by-step practical exercises for exploring the physical, psychological, and relationship factors that can lead to ISD are also offered. (BOOK)

Intimate Connections
by David Burns

Based on the principles of cognitive behavioral therapy, this book examines the various reasons that some people feel lonely. Provides comprehensive self-tests and other practical techniques for reducing loneliness and feelings of isolation. (BOOK)

Intimate Partners
by Maggie Scarf

The bonds we create affect every aspect of our lives, and yet our grasp of them is limited by our emotional reactions and learned responses. Scarf gives us the classic book on marriage, on how love relationships are formed and how they change over the course of the marital cycle. Here you'll discover: how to understand one's inherited emotional history; the fascinating effects of power and control, intimacy and autonomy; surprising observations on the role of sex and the impact of children on marriage; why change can be experienced as a form of betrayal; simple exercises to resolve tensions and change patterns; and techniques to cope with sexual difficulties and enliven a couple's connection during sex. (BOOK)

Just Your Type: Creating the Relationship You Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type
by Paul and Barbara Tieger

According to the authors, everyone can be characterized by one of 16 Myers Briggs personality types. This book includes a thorough yet succinct self-analysis to identify the "unconscious preferences" that make up one's type. It is a sourcebook for referencing specific combinations of types and typical communication difficulties, and it offers suggestions for how each partner can "reach" the other. (BOOK)

Keeping Love Alive
by Michele Weiner-Davis

This seminar contain cutting edge information about how to make your relationship better than ever. Michele offers a clear, concise, step-by-step method for building on positive interactions with your partner and eliminating unproductive ones. She teaches the tools for transforming any relationship challenge into an opportunity for growth. (6 CASSETTES)

Keeping the Love You Find
by Harville Hendrix

Hendrix has developed a brilliant, thought-provoking, and innovative self-help program for single people who yearn for the pleasures and rewards of a loving, long-lasting union. This book serves as a guide to holding onto love and shows readers how to meet the challenges of a new relationship, avoid making the same mistakes, deal with emotional issues, and improve their odds. (BOOK)

The Language of Love & Respect: Cracking the Communication Code with Your Mate
by Emerson Eggerichs

An in-depth study of why your communication styles are not wrong, just different! This analysis of the vital principles of cross-gender communication helps couples recognize they speak two different languages. They are sending each other messages in "code" but won't be able to crack that code until they realize that "she" listens to hear the language of love and "he" listens for respect. Most advice on this subject fails to understand that husbands and wives are wired very differently, and when those wires get crossed, the communication sparks can fly! (BOOK)

Loving Sexuality
by Patricia Love

We have different sexual needs... We are afraid to express our needs... We simply can't find time for each other. The real couples in Loving Sexuality reflect the very real issues that so many couples face after being together for months, years, or decades. Pat Love offers a slew of great ideas on how to reignite the sexual dimension of your relationship. Loving Sexuality teaches essential skills for an enriched and enduring relationship. It looks at the delicate area of sexual interaction in a clear but gentle way, and provides practical strategies for partners to enhance their pleasure in each other across all dimensions. (DVD - 120 minutes)

Making Love Last Forever
by Gary Smalley

Smalley shows you how to stay in love through all the stages of life. From first attraction to lifelong commitment, Gary's techniques and practical advice show you how to pursue and keep the love you want, and how to energize your relationship with enduring, passion-filled love. With humor, empathy, and insight, Smalley inspires you to fall in love with life and enjoy the deep satisfaction of a lifelong love. Down-to-earth examples, touching personal experiences, and inspiring spiritual principles will motivate you to bring about positive changes in your marriage-whether or not your mate is a willing participant. (BOOK)

Mars and Venus in Touch: Enhancing the Passion with Great Communication
by John Gray

Gray demonstrates that good communication is essential if couples are to recharge the love and passion so vital to relationships. He teaches how to open doors to clear, concise communication; he offers easy, accessible skills to help understand our partners and their needs, and also how to be understood by them. (BOOK)

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationship
by John Gray

Gray explains how differences in communication styles, emotional needs and modes of behavior can come between the sexes and prohibit mutually fulfilling loving relationships. He gives advice on how to promote a greater understanding between individual partners. He encourages readers to accept the other gender's particular way of expressing love, and helps men and women learn how to fulfill each other's emotional needs. With practical suggestions on how to reduce conflict, crucial information on how to interpret a partner's behavior and methods for preventing emotional "trash from the past" from invading new relationships, Gray provides a valuable tool for couples who want to develop deeper and more satisfying relationships with their partners. (BOOK)

The New Male Sexuality (Revised Edition)
by Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D.

This book addresses the most urgent questions of men today--and of the women who love them. Bernie Zilbergeld reports findings from his twenty years as a psychologist specializing in human sexuality, as well as those other experts in the field, and shares his own and his clients' experiences. The result is the most comprehensive guide ever to enhancing desire and arousal, focusing on pleasure rather than performance, and keeping sex exciting and fulfilling. (BOOK)

Non-Violent Communication, A Language of Life: Create Your Life, Your Relationships and Your World in Harmony with Your Values
by Marshall Rosenberg
(see ANGER )

Passionate Marriage: Love, Sex, and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships
by David Schnarch

Schnarch accompanies his inspirational message of attaining long-term happiness with proven techniques developed in worldwide workshops to help couples develop greater intimacy. Chapters provide the scaffolding for overcoming sexual and emotional roadblocks - from evaluating personal expectations to laying the groundwork for keeping the sparks alive years down the road and everything in between. This book is sure to help couples overcome hurdles in their relationships and reach the fullest potential in their love lives. (BOOK)

Prescription for Marriage
by David Luecke

Luecke describes twenty-five frequently occurring marital issues. Each issue begins with a description of "symptoms," that is, the experiences and feelings that signal a need for attention. A "diagnosis" follows which identifies the underlying causes and dynamics. Each chapter concludes with a "prescription" for building or enriching your relationship so that the symptoms can be overcome and the underlying issues resolved. Individuals, married or not, can find themselves in this book and benefit from the "prescriptions" for dealing with relational issues. Most couples will achieve best results by sharing their exploration of the issues and prescriptions using the brief instructions provided in this book. (BOOK)

Real Sex: The Naked Truth about Chastity
by Lauren Winner

Splashed across magazine covers, billboards, and computer screens - sex is casual, aggressive, and absolutely everywhere. And everybody's doing it, right? In Real Sex, Winner speaks candidly to Christians about the difficulty - and the importance - of sexual chastity. With honesty and wit, she talks about her struggle to live a celibate life. Never dodging tough terms like "confession" and "sin," Winner grounds her discussion of chastity first and foremost in Scripture. She confronts cultural lies about sex and challenges how we talk about sex in church. Her biblically grounded observations and suggestions will be especially valuable to unmarried Christians struggling with the sexual mania of today's culture. This is essential reading for Christians grappling with chastity and a valuable tool for pastors. (BOOK)

The Relationship Manual for Couples: How to Diagnose, Build, or Enrich a Relationship
by David Luecke

This book provides 27 workshop-type chapters for individuals or couples to learn skills to: build compatibility out of differences; build cooperation out of conflict; build personal and emotional support; and build a satisfying level of conversational, emotional, physical and sexual intimacy. (BOOK)

Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts: Seven Questions to Ask Before (and After) You Marry
by Les and Leslie Parrott

Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts is a comprehensive marriage program designed specifically for today’s couples. It’s practically a self-guided premarital counseling course with questions at the end of every chapter help you explore each topic personally. Relationship experts Les and Leslie Parrott show you the secrets to building a marriage that lasts: Uncover the most important misbeliefs of marriage; Learn how to communicate with instant understanding; Discover the secret to reducing and resolving conflict; Master the skills of money management; Get your sex life off to a great start; Understand the three essential ingredients to lasting love; Discover the importance of becoming “soul mates” … and more. (BOOK)

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work
by John Gottman

After decades of studying both successful couples and couples who are separating, John Gottman has distilled his findings into basic precepts for success, explaining how and why they work. Rejecting traditional assumptions about the things that make a marriage work, Gottman cites "emotional intelligence" as the bedrock of marital success. He turns his empirical findings into practical, specific advice for those in search of a long-term, close partnership. He offers quizzes and questionnaires to help determine the chances of making a relationship lasting and satisfying, and he details a concrete, seven-point plan for enhancing these odds. Filled with humor and written in a highly accessible, friendly style, this guide, frequently recommended by marriage counselors, will show couples the way to beat the divorce statistics. (BOOK)

Sex in the Parish
by Karen Lebacqz and Ronald Barton
(see VOCATION / MINISTRY )

Sexual Healing
by Peter Levine

This CD set was created for survivors of incest, rape and other traumatic assaults on personal boundaries. The creator of Somatic Experiencing makes his brilliant, body-based exercises accessible and safe for listeners who suffer from a traumatic sexual history. Levine’s gentle explanations hit the mark, and the experiential segments are incremental and exactly right. (CD - 150 minutes)

Sexual Intimacy
by Emmett Miller

Hypnosis and guided imagery expert, Emmett Miller, teams up with his wife Sandra Miller, to offer a pair of gentle, sensitive and compassionate meditations for opening heart and body to the beauty of loving. These imagery programs are great for performance anxiety and problems with responsiveness, or just to heighten awareness and enjoyment. (CD - 59 minutes)

Successful Relationships (Health Journeys)
by Belleruth Naparstek

As a former couple’s and family therapist, Naparstek designed a guided imagery to help people explore their relationship issues non-judgmentally, promote empathy for the other person, release old grief, and open their hearts to touch their capacity for unconditional love. The final exercise can be done in pairs. These meditations can be used for any relationship. (CD - 68 minutes)

Tending Our Longings
by Don Bisson
What calls us to relationship? What do we do with the deep longings that arise from the solitude of the soul? In this workshop we ponder the nature of desire, as well as the significance of forming relationships with both others and God. The invitation to awaken and channel one’s desires into depth and meaning can open us up to the mystery of contemplative love. Christian tradition and Jungian depth psychology are the basis for these reflections. (3 CDs)

The Truth About Love: The Highs, the Lows, and How You Can Make It Last Forever
by Patricia Love

This book describes the natural stages of love, refutes various romantic notions that can undermine a relationship, offers realistic insights designed to strengthen the bonds of love, and presents suggestions on how to transform a relationship. Pat Love offers hope to those who feel that the flame of amour has gone out by outlining the four up-and-down stages of love: Infatuation, Post-Rapture, Discovery, and Connection. She explains how physiological changes account for some of the intense feelings brought on by initial attraction and explains that this heady infatuation stage, glorious as it may be, is not what love is really about. She explodes myths that can destroy relationships, and addresses typical problems that arise. This book includes quizzes and lists of questions for couples to discuss. (BOOK)

Too Good for Her Own Good: Searching for Self and Intimacy in Important Relationships
by Claudia Bepko and Jo-Ann Krestan

A compassionate and insightful guide that explains why women work so hard to be good without ever feeling good about themselves and offers practical steps for finding a way out of this trap. (BOOK)

What Your Mother Couldn’t Tell You and Your Father Didn’t Know: Advanced Relationship Skills for Better Communication and Lasting Intimacy
by John Gray

Relationships today require new skills to achieve lasting fulfillment. Having a husband who brings home a paycheck or a wife who maintains a nice, clean home is no longer enough. John Gray draws upon his extensive work with singles and couples in his seminars to point us in a new direction. He promises--and delivers--the necessary information for creating and sustaining loving and mutually fulfilling relationships. By teaching relationship skills that address contemporary individuals' and couples' needs, John Gray offers practical ways in which to enjoy and celebrate the differences between men and women in peace and with passion. (BOOK)

When Love Goes Wrong: What to Do When You Can’t Do Anything Right (Strategies for Women with Controlling Partners)
by Ann Jones and Susan Schechter

Millions of women each year find themselves in relationships with controlling or abusive partners and a woman may find herself trying harder and harder to make things right without ever being successful. Ann Jones and Susan Schechter bring together their more than fifteen years of experience working with women in abusive relationships to offer an eye-opening analysis of controlling partners and a wealth of empowering information for women who want to change their lives for the better. Full of moving first-person stories, When Love Goes Wrong shows women what their options are in or out of the relationship, provides concrete guidance on finding safety and support for themselves and their children, and includes a comprehensive list of agencies offering information or assistance. (BOOK)

When the Pastor Is Your Husband: The Joy and Pain of Ministry Wives
by Donna Bordelon Alder
(see VOCATION/MINISTRY )

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail… and How You Can Make Yours Last
by John Gottman
This book provides a series of self-tests designed to help you determine what kind of marriage you have, where your strengths and weaknesses are, and what specific actions you can take to help your marriage. You’ll also learn: more sex doesn’t necessarily improve a marriage; frequent arguing will not lead to divorce; financial problems do not always spell out trouble in a relationship; there’s a reason men withdraw from arguments, and there’s a way around it; and more. Gottman teaches how to recognize attitudes that doom marriage and provides practical exercises, quizzes, tips, and techniques that will help you understand and make the most of your relationship. (BOOK)



Wired for Love
by Stan Tatkin, PsyD
This book is a complete insider’s guide to understanding your partner’s brain and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust. Synthesizing research finding on how and why love last drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this book present ten guiding principles that can improve any relationship. (BOOK)

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OCD

Help with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (Health Journeys)
by Belleruth Naparstek

This carefully researched guided imagery audio program combines soothing music with powerful, healing images to help reduce anxiety, stabilize biochemical swings, increase strength and motivation to resist unwanted thoughts and impulses, and envision a time of freedom from the oppressive symptoms of OCD. Designed to support and enhance the cognitive-behavioral programs and medication known to alleviate this condition. (CD - 49 minutes)

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PAIN

Ease Pain (Health Journeys)
by Belleruth Naparstek

Through relaxing around and through physical or emotional pain, refocusing the mind, and marshalling serotonin-elevating images of love, gratitude, safety and peace, pain is minimized or even transformed. (CD - 44 minutes)

Mindfulness Meditation for Pain Relief: Guided Practices for Reclaiming Your Body and Your Life
by Jon Kabat-Zinn

Jon Kabat-Zinn and his colleagues have helped thousands of people learn to use the power of mindfulness to transform their relationship to pain and suffering, and to discover new degrees of freedom for living with greater ease and quality of life. The first session of Mindfulness Meditation gives an overview of seven fundamental attitudes we can develop and deploy to cultivate mindfulness in relationship to chronic pain and its incessant challenges. In the second session, Kabat-Zinn leads us in guided meditations drawn from his pioneering Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) methodology: “Through the systematic cultivation of mindfulness, we can reclaim the entire spectrum of our experience and the joys inherent in living.” (CD)

Relieve Headaches (Health Journeys)
by Belleruth Naparstek

A guided imagery designed to help relax tense muscles in the head and neck, assist with the opening and evening out of blood vessel caliber, elevate seratonin levels, reduce pain, assist the body in clearing out toxins, promote emotional balance; and clear the mind of cognitive clutter. (CD - 74 minutes)

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PERSONAL GROWTH/SELF-ESTEEM

see also GENERAL WELL-BEING

The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity
by Julia Cameron

Cameron believes that creativity is God’s gift to us and that when we open to our creativity we can expect many powerful, positive changes in our lives. Individually or in a small group, both artists and non-artists will be changed by reading this book and completing the exercises. Cameron’s best-seller has helped PTS PhD students overcome writer’s block. She helps readers get past barriers to creativity such as limiting beliefs, fear, self-sabotage, jealousy, guilt, addictions, and other inhibiting forces, replacing them with artistic confidence and productivity. This book links creativity to spirituality by showing how to connect with the creative energies of the universe, and has spawned a remarkable number of support groups for artists dedicated to practicing the exercises it contains. (BOOK)

Awakening from the Deep Sleep: A Powerful Guide for Courageous Men
by Robert Pasick

A powerful guide for courageous men who long to connect more deeply and fully with their families and friends. Drawing from his years of counseling, psychologist and family therapist Pasick explores issues of work, anger, grief, women, sexuality, fatherhood, and addiction. He redefines manhood and shows men how to build upon the strengths they already have to take better care of themselves and others. (BOOK)

Before You Think Another Thought: An Illustrated Guide to Understanding How Your Thoughts and Beliefs Create Your Life
by Bruce Doyle

Most people believe that their thoughts are their private domain and, if left unspoken, remain inside their heads. In a casual, conversational style, Doyle exposes the fallacy of that belief and defines thought as the basic element of all creation. Before You think Another Though t springs to life with many personal examples and insights from Doyle's own life experiences and those of his friends and clients. A portfolio of creative illustrations reinforce important points. Armed with an understanding of how thoughts and beliefs operate in the universe and the structure of individual belief systems, the readers have a clear road map for exploring their own beliefs and changing them to deliberately mold their experience - mastering their lives. Doyle exposes the roots of self-sabotage and offers a way to attain one's goals by simply dissolving the obstacles.(BOOK)

Cognitive Behavioral Skills for Procrastinators
Lecture from the Princeton Seminary Wholistic Health Initiative Seminars, March 2008. (CD)

 Creating Well-Being: The Healing Path to Love, Peace, Self-Esteem and Happiness
by Philip Friedman

A powerful, beautiful and life-changing book that describes the 12 core principles for enhancing well-being. The stories of people's lives are inspiring and uplifting and convey a loving touch. The guidelines, questionnaires and home work/play sheets make the material especially accessible, practical and useful. (BOOK)

The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, and Shame to be Your Best and Bravest Self
by Harriet Lerner

According to Lerner, unhappiness is fueled by three key emotions: anxiety, fear, and shame. They are the uninvited guests in our lives. When tragedy or hardship hit, they may become our constant companions.
Anxiety can wash over us like a tidal wave, or operate as a silent thrum under the surface of our daily lives. With stories that are sometimes hilarious and sometimes heart breaking, Lerner takes us from “fear-lite” to the most difficult lessons the universe sends us. No one signs up for anxiety fear and shame, but we can't avoid them either. The more we can look these emotions in the eye, with patience and curiosity, and the more we learn to spot their wisdom and mischief, the less grip they have on us. As we learn to respond to the three key emotions in new ways, we can live more fully in the present and move into the future with courage, clarity, humor and hope. (BOOK)

 The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self
by Alice Miller
(see FAMILY/PARENTING )

Emotional Intelligence 2.0
by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves

For the first time, TalentSmart unveils its step-by-step program for increasing emotional intelligence via 66 proven strategies that teach: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management. The book also includes access to the enhanced online edition of the world′s most popular EQ test—the Emotional Intelligence Appraisal—that pinpoints the strategies that will increase your emotional intelligence the most and tests your EQ a second time to measure your progress. (BOOK)

Extraordinary Leadership: Thinking Systems, Making a Difference
by Roberta Gilbert

Bowen family systems theory has proven itself enormously effective in providing understanding and guidelines for healthier patterns in families as well as businesses, institutions, and congregations. Extraordinary Leadership examines organizations as emotional systems and will help leaders handle themselves in emotionally charged or chaotic situations. This book teaches leaders how to think systems and how that makes a difference. (BOOK)

Feeling Right When Things Go Wrong
by Bill Borcherdt

Things often happen that we neither want nor expect to occur. How we handle these events emotionally can determine in large part whether they are minor setbacks from which we recover, or whether they become major stumbling blocks to our enjoyment of life. 30 guides illustrate how to apply the principles of Rational Emotive Behavior Theory (REBT) when things don't go quite as we want them to. (BOOK)

First Things First
by Stephen Covey and Roger and Rebecca Merrill

“I'm getting more done in less time, but where are the rich relationships, the inner peace, the balance, the confidence that I'm doing what matters most and doing it well?” Does this nagging question haunt you, even when you feel you are being your most efficient? If so, First Things First can help you understand why so often our first things aren't first. Rather than offering you another clock, this book provides you with a compass, because where you're headed is more important than how fast you're going. The authors of this book apply insights from Covey’s previous book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People , to the daily problems of people who must struggle with the demands of work and home life. Rather than focusing on time and change, the book emphasizes relationships and results. (BOOK)

Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement without Giving In
by Roger Fisher and William Ury

Since its original publication nearly thirty years ago, Getting to Yes has helped millions of people learn a better way to negotiate. One of the primary business texts of the modern era, it is based on the work of the Harvard Negotiation Project, a group that deals with all levels of negotiation and conflict resolution. Getting to Yes offers a proven, step-by-step strategy for coming to mutually acceptable agreements in every sort of conflict. Thoroughly updated and revised, it offers readers a straight- forward, universally applicable method for negotiating personal and professional disputes without getting angry-or getting taken. (BOOK)

Getting Together: Building Relationships As We Negotiate
by Roger Fisher and Scott Brown

Expanding on the principles, insights, and wisdom that made Getting to Yes a worldwide bestseller, Fisher and Brown offer a straightforward approach to creating relationships that can deal with difficulties as they arise. Getting Together takes you step-by-step through initiating, negotiating, and sustaining enduring relationships -- in business, in government, between friends, and in the family. (BOOK)

Healing Your Aloneness: Finding Love and Wholeness through Your Inner Child
by Erika Chopich and Margaret Paul

This book shows how anyone can reconnect with his or her inner child to short-circuit self-destructive patterns, resolve fears and conflicts, and build satisfying relationships. Healing Your Aloneness outlines a self-healing process that can be used every day to restore a nurturing balance between loving adult and inner child. (BOOK) *This resource pairs well with the Healing Your Aloneness Workbook*

Healing Your Aloneness Workbook: The 6-step Inner Bonding Spiritual Process for Healing Yourself and Your Relationships
by Erika Chopich and Margaret Paul

This book teaches a profound six-step process for connecting with your essence and your personal spiritual guidance, and for healing the fears and false beliefs that keep you limited. This is an exceptional process for healing the aloneness and filling the emptiness that leads to addictive behavior. Practicing this process results in personal empowerment and loving relationships. (WORKBOOK) *This workbook pairs well with Healing Your Aloness (BOOK) or Inner Bonding (BOOK)*

Imperfect Control: Our Lifelong Struggles with Power and Surrender
by Judith Viorst

In Necessary Losses, Viorst explored how we are shaped by the various losses we experience throughout our lives. Now, in Imperfect Control, she shows us how our sense of self and all our important relationships are colored by our struggles over control: over wanting it and taking it, loving it and fearing it, and figuring out when the time has come to surrender it. Writing with compassion, acute psychological insight, and a touch of her trademark humor, Viorst invites us to contemplate the limits and possibilities of our control. She shows us how our lives can be shaped by our actions and our choices. She reminds us, too, that we sometimes should choose to let go. And she encourages us to find our own best balance between power and surrender. (BOOK)

Inner Bonding: Becoming a Loving Adult to your Inner Child (A breakthrough 5-step process to transform how you relate to family, friends and co-workers)
by Margaret Paul

Inner bonding is the process of connecting our adult thoughts with our instinctual, gut feelings -- the feelings of the "inner child" -- so that we can minimize painful conflict within ourselves. Margaret Paul explores how abandonment of the inner child leads to increasingly negative and destructive feelings of low self-worth, codependence, addiction, shame, powerlessness, and withdrawal from relationships. Her breakthrough inner bonding process teaches us to heal past wounds through re-parenting and clearly demonstrates how we can learn to parent in the present. Real-life examples illustrate the dynamics of the healing process and show the benefits we can expect in every facet of our lives and in all our relationships. (BOOK) *This book pairs well with Healing Your Aloneness (WORKBOOK)*

 Mind Power: Getting What You Want through Mental Training
by Bernie Zilbergeld

For years, athletes, entertainers, executives and politicians have used techniques of self-hypnosis and self-relaxation. Now these methods are explained for everyone, in order to promote healing, alleviate pain, enhance sex lives and much more. (BOOK)

The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business
by Charles Duhigg

Duhigg takes us to the thrilling edge of scientific discoveries that explain why habits exist and how they can be changed. Duhigg brings to life a whole new understanding of human nature and its potential for transformation. Along the way we learn why some people and companies struggle to change, despite years of trying, while others seem to remake themselves overnight. We visit laboratories where neuroscientists explore how habits work and where, exactly, they reside in our brains. At its core, The Power of Habit contains an exhilarating argument: The key to exercising regularly, losing weight, raising exceptional children, becoming more productive, building revolutionary companies and social movements, and achieving success is understanding how habits work. (BOOK)

 Primal Leadership: Learning to Lead with Emotional Intelligence
by Daniel Goleman, Richard Boyatzis, and Annie McKee

Drawing from decades of research within world-class organizations, the authors show that great leaders excel not just through skill and smarts, but by connecting with others using Emotional Intelligence competencies like empathy and self-awareness. The best leaders, they show, have "resonance"--a powerful ability to drive emotions in a positive direction to get results--and can fluidly interchange among a variety of leadership styles as the situation demands. Groundbreaking and timely, this book reveals the new requirements of successful leadership. (BOOK)

Procrastination: Why You Do It, What to Do About It NOW
by Jane B. Burka and Lenora M. Yuen

Based on their highly acclaimed and groundbreaking procrastination workshops and drawn from a wealth of shared counseling experience, psychologists Burka and Yuen offer a probing, sensitive, and sometimes humorous look at procrastination, a problem that affects everyone. By identifying and examining the reasons we put off tasks in the first place--fears of failure, success, control, separation, and attachment, as well as our concept of time and the neuroscience of our brain--Procrastination lays important groundwork for learning how to understand the impulse to delay and how to take action in new ways. (BOOK)
 
Rewire Your Brain: Think Your Way to a Better Life
by John B. Arden
(see POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY )

The Science of Success
by Emiliya Zhivotovskaya
(see POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY )

Self-Confidence & Peak Performance (Health Journeys)
by Belleruth Naparstek

This guided imagery CD is designed to put a little distance between the listener and any stress, strain or fear of failure, while opening heart and mind to remembering the joy of merging with an activity and just flowing with it. Positive images pump up self-esteem, confidence and focus, creating an energized, calm sense of mastery. (CD - 58 minutes)

Self-Esteem
by David Illig

These self-hypnosis and subliminal learning programs are designed to increase your self-esteem. The way that we value ourselves, and how much we respect our own ability to contribute to the world determines the way we live our lives. This CD will help you to enjoy the peaceful feeling that comes with loving, honoring and valuing the precious gifts that you as a unique individual bring to the world. This program will help you: feel loved and appreciated; become mentally healthy and more helpful to yourself; learn self love; heal old self-worth wounds; allow yourself to move forward; lose approval-seeking behavior; and love fully, yourself and others. (CD - 80 minutes)

The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change
by Stephen Covey

This is a comprehensive program based on developing an awareness of how perceptions and assumptions hinder success---in business as well as personal relationships. Here's an approach that will help broaden your way of thinking and lead to greater opportunities and effective problem solving. 1) Be Pro-Active; 2) Begin With an End in Mind; 3) Put First Things First; 4)Think Win/Win; 5) Seek First to Understand; 6) Synergize; 7) Renewal. (BOOK)

Stages of Faith: The Psychology of Human Development and the Quest for Meaning
by James W. Fowler

According to Fowler, faith is a person's way of leaning into and making sense of life. More verb that noun, faith is the dynamic system of images, values, and commitments that guide one's life. It is thus universal: everyone who chooses to go on living operated by some basic faith. Building on the contributions of such key thinkers as Piaget, Erikson, and Kohlberg, Fowler draws on a wide range of scholarship, literature, and firsthand research to present the six stages that emerge in working out the meaning of our lives--from the intuitive, imitative faith of childhood through conventional and then more independent faith to the universalizing, self-transcending faith of full maturity. Stages of Faith helps us to understand our own pilgrimage of faith, the passages of our own quest for meaning and value. (BOOK)

Stress for Success
by James E. Loehr

This renowned motivational coach of world-class athletes turns his attention to those in the corporate world. In Stress for Success, business people get a practical, performance-based program to strengthen their physical, mental and emotional resilience. Loehr's 30-day program shows readers how to gradually make the kind of personal lifestyle changes that bring about the kind of high-level performance demanded of people at every level of the corporation. (BOOK)

 Ten Days to Self-Esteem
by David Burns

Building on his book, Feeling Good , Burns offers a program for improving mood without drugs. In Ten Days to Self-Esteem, he presents an innovative approach to mood problems. Written in a remarkably clear and understanding style, this workbook will help you identify the causes of your mood slumps and develop a more positive outlook on life. (WORKBOOK)

Unconditional Confidence: Instructions for Meeting Any Experience with Trust and Courage
by Pema Chödrön

In Unconditional Confidence Chödrön offers two accessible sessions to help anyone find courage in times of challenge and change. Featuring a three-step method for learning to work with uncertainty and fear and an exclusive interview, this liberating program offers practical tools and teachings that explore: True confidence—and how to cultivate the trust that makes it possible; “Shaky tenderness,” the first step to developing strong and consistent bravery; and Practical steps to “leap into, smile at, and experience all of life”—even when fear is present. “For us to be of benefit to each other—in times of challenge or any other—we need to be able to tap into genuine confidence,” teaches Pema. Unconditional Confidence offers timeless wisdom and inspiration for developing this courageous skill. (CD)

Visualize Confidence: How to Use Guided Imagery to Overcome Self-Doubt
by Kirwan Rockefeller

If you can picture yourself doing something challenging, you'll have a better chance of making it happen because you'll have confidence in your ability to succeed. This book offers skills for developing the confidence needed to turn your dreams into reality through the use of guided imagery. The process couldn't be simpler or more powerful: you develop a rich picture in your mind of whatever it is that you want to happen. When you visualize, you prepare yourself to experience your goal, developing self-confidence and conviction as you go. You'll gain renewed optimism, learn anti-worry strategies, and use your imagination to foster the calm and poise you need to feel confident, competent, and assured. The mind-body techniques in the book include guided imagery, meditation, creative visualization, and personal rituals and exercises. (BOOK)

 Walden Today
by Wayne M. Thomas

Thomas’ book is a survival manual for avoiding a life of what Thoreau called ‘quiet desperation.’ It is a book about creating personal freedom and making a living in a time where there is no job security, fewer jobs, and little trust in government and corporations. Walden Today provides an answer to: How To Change What We Do Into What We'd Rather Be Doing. The solution is to live more deliberately to gain more autonomy (freedom and independence). We can live deliberately by applying Thoreau's seven principles of living and working: 1. Be true to yourself; 2. Network to grow and survive; 3. Life is short, so enjoy it by living simply to stay free; 4. Become Self Reliant--Do it yourself; 5. Adapt to changes in life by continually learning and trying new ideas; 6. Take advantage of the conveniences and opportunities of the age; 7. Work deliberately. (BOOK)

 We Are Driven: The Compulsive Behaviors America Applauds
by Robert Helmfelt, Frank Minirith and Paul Meier

A ground-breaking book that identifies compulsive behaviors as addictions and presents an innovative recovery program. The addictions Americans applaud are healed by the proven recovery method used by the clinic for any addictive behavior. The authors help readers discover the freedom from the need to do more and be more. (BOOK)

The Willpower Instinct
by Kelly McGonigal Ph.D.

This is the first book to explain the new science of self-control and how it can be harnessed to improve our health, happiness, and productivity. Informed by the latest research and combining cutting-edge insights from psychology, economics, neuroscience, and medicine, explains exactly what willpower is, how it works, and why it matters. In the groundbreaking tradition of Getting Things Done, The Willpower Instinct combines life-changing prescriptive advice and complementary exercises to help readers with goals ranging from losing weight to more patient parenting, less procrastination, better health, and greater productivity at work. (BOOK)

Winning Against Relapse: A Workbook of Action Plans for Recurring Health and Emotional Problems
by Mary Ellen Copeland

Copeland's battle with manic depression, fibromyalgia, and chronic myofascial pain syndrome sent her on a search for ways to manage these conditions. In this book, she teaches readers how to manage symptoms in a way that reduces, modifies, or eliminates the possibility of relapse. She presents a structured system that those in recovery can use to monitor their own symptoms and respond to them in a way that reduces or eliminates the possibility of relapse. (BOOK)

Winning at Learning
by Emmett Miller

These four, easy-to-use, accelerated learning techniques for studying and test-taking are excellent for teens and adults. There's imagery to anticipate successful performance, and positive suggestions for memorizing, staying confident and calm. (CD - 41 minutes)

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POSITIVE PSYCHOLOGY

Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realize Your Potential for Lasting Fulfillment
by Martin Seligman

Seligman introduces the revolutionary, scientifically based idea of Positive Psychology, which focuses on strengths rather than weaknesses, asserting that happiness is not the result of good genes or luck. He teaches readers that happiness can be cultivated by identifying and using many of the strengths and traits that they already possess -- including kindness, originality, humor, optimism, and generosity. Seligman provides the Signature Strengths Survey along with a variety of brief tests that can be used to measure how much positive emotion readers experience, in order to help determine what their highest strengths are. The life-changing lesson of Authentic Happiness is that by identifying the very best in ourselves, we can improve the world around us and achieve new and sustainable levels of authentic contentment, gratification, and meaning. (BOOK)

Beyond Positive Thinking (PTS Well-Lunch Lectures)
by Emiliya Zhivotovskaya

Positive psychology, also known as the science of happiness, started 10 years ago when psychologists said, “We know a lot about how to fix what’s wrong with people, but how do we build what’s right with people?” This 2-part lecture (January 12 & 19, 2010 at PTS) included cutting edge findings about the science of gratitude, forgiveness, hope, strengths, resilience, optimism and more. Zhivotovskaya completed her Masters in Positive Psychology at the University of Pennsylvania in a program developed by Martin Seligman, founder of Positive Psychology and past director of the American Psychological Association. (DVD)

Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom
by Rick Hanson

Jesus, Moses, the Buddha, and other great teachers were all born with a brain built essentially like anyone else’s. Then they used their minds to change their brains in ways that changed history. Buddha’s Brain joins modern science with ancient teachings to show you how to have greater emotional balance in turbulent times, as well as healthier relationships, more effective actions, and greater peace of mind. Well-referenced and grounded in science, the book is full of practical tools and skills that you can use in daily life to rewire your brain over time. The brain is the bodily organ that most affects who you are and your experience of living – learning how to take good care of it, and strengthen and direct it in the ways that will help you the most, is a profound gift to yourself, and to everyone else whose life you touch. (BOOK) *This book pairs well with Just One Thing*

Fix Your Thoughts, Change Your Life
by Emiliya Zhivotovskaya

Plagued by pessimistic, debilitating mind chatter? Welcome to being human. Your thoughts are the foundation for how you feel and what you do. The key to making powerful changes in your life is learning how to work with and regulate your mind chatter. In this CD you will learn step by step tools for becoming aware of your inner dialogue, discovering where your mind chatter comes from, understanding the direct connection between your thoughts and your feelings, and transforming thoughts that do not serve you. (CD)

Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness
by Fred Luskin

Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting, insists Luskin, nor does it mean condoning bad behavior. What it does mean is that you "take your hurt less personally, take responsibility for how you feel, and become a hero instead of a victim in the story you tell." Luskin shows why forgiveness is important for mental and physical health, explains how to form a grievance and suggests practical steps for healing. He uses examples from his clinical practice and the broader culture in this solidly researched and convincing guide. Drawn from research by the Stanford Forgiveness Project, this is an innovative guide to understanding and overcoming the negative effects of anger, bitterness, and resentment. (BOOK)

The Forgiveness Solution: The Whole-Body Rx for Finding True Happiness, Abundant Love, and Inner Peace
by Philip Friedman

Friedman believes that at the root of almost all emotional problems is unforgiveness (grievances, judgments and attack thoughts)-- towards others, ourselves, our circumstances, God, anyone or everyone. The Forgiveness Solution is an easy to learn, practical and integrative process whereby we learn to shift and release our perceptions, attitudes, images, energy and distressing feelings (anger, guilt, hurt, shame, anxiety, panic, trauma etc) and simultaneously re-empower ourselves by choosing and deciding to forgive. Friedman teaches us many powerful exercises, tools and techniques that show us exactly how to forgive rather than just talk about forgiveness. (BOOK)

Just One Thing: Developing a Buddha Brain One Simple Practice at a Time
by Rick Hanson

52 practices – simple actions inside your mind – to light up the neural networks of deep well-being and resilience. And because “neurons that fire together, wire together,” each time you do a practice, it strengthens key neural circuits like building a muscle in the gym. Each practice is grounded in modern neuroscience, positive psychology, Hanson’s background in the very real world of business and raising a family. Each bite-size chapter introduces a new practice, explains why it’s important, and shows you how to do it. (BOOK) *This book pairs well with Buddha’s Brain*

Map to Happiness: Straightforward Advice on Everyday Issues
by Peter Stimpson

Stimpson, the Director of Trinity Counseling Services, anchors happiness in a pyramid of principles: insecurity, power, and success. He explains that by understanding everyone is insecure, we can take back our power from others to define our worth and reach for success in lasting values, not things. His message is clear: who you become is more important than what you attain. Stimpson illustrates the power of his trilogy by answering today's ubiquitous questions related to love of yourself, your spouse, your children, and life's challenges of stress, work, illness, anger, and death. Using both spiritual and psychological perspectives, Stimpson frankly discusses how we stray off the path to happiness, but more importantly, how we can get back on track. (BOOK)

Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation
by Daniel Siegel

Mindsight allows you to make positive changes in your brain–and in your life. Is there a memory that torments you, or an irrational fear you can't shake? Do you sometimes become unreasonably angry or upset and find it hard to calm down? Do you ever wonder why you can't stop behaving the way you do, no matter how hard you try? Are you and your child (or parent, partner, or boss) locked in a seemingly inevitable pattern of conflict? What if you could escape traps like these and live a fuller, richer, happier life? Dr. Siegel is one of the revolutionary global innovators in the integration of brain science into the practice of psychotherapy. Using case histories from his practice, he shows how, by following the proper steps, nearly everyone can learn how to focus their attention on the internal world of the mind in a way that will literally change the wiring and architecture of their brain. (BOOK)

Pocket Guide to Interpersonal Neurobiology: An Integrative Handbook of the Mind
by Daniel Siegel

From psychologists to linguists, neuroscientists to philosophers, people have explored the nature of mental life, yet no interdisciplinary framework has existed for wisely answering fundamental questions about the mind or even offering a definition of what the mind is. Here, Siegel bridges domains of knowledge to offer a book that reveals the way the mind works via a format that reflects the brain’s natural mode of learning (flip the Pocket Guide open to any page and you will find an “entry point” that guides you to explore, in your own way, the web of integrated knowledge). Walking us through the intricate foundations of interpersonal neurobiology, Siegel allows us to see the personal and professional applications of this exciting new approach to developing a healthy mind, an integrated brain, and empathic relationships. (BOOK)

 Rewire Your Brain: Think Your Way to a Better Life
by John B. Arden

Not long ago, it was thought that the brain you were born with was the brain you would die with, and that the brain cells you had at birth were the most you would ever possess. Your brain was thought to be “hardwired” to function in predetermined ways. It turns out that's not true. Your brain is not hardwired, it's "softwired" by experience. This book shows you how you can rewire parts of the brain to feel more positive about your life, remain calm during stressful times, and improve your social relationships. Written by a leader in the field of Brain-Based Therapy, it teaches you how to activate the parts of your brain that have been underactivated and calm down those areas that have been hyperactivated so that you feel positive about your life and remain calm during stressful times. You will also learn to improve your memory, boost your mood, have better relationships, and get a good night sleep. (BOOK)

The Science of Success
by Emiliya Zhivotovskaya

Discover what can make you plateau in your achievement compared to continuously reaching higher levels of your potential. The Science of Success is a journey into the research of Positive Psychology and the mindset correlated with success and curiosity, compared to a mindset that keeps people stuck in insecurity, social comparison, self-doubt and anxiety. Learn how to transform your experiences as a path to flourishing. (CD)

The Sedona Method: Your Key to Lasting Happiness, Success, Peace and Emotional Well-being
by Hale Dwoskin

This self-help guide offers a complete course intended to help readers eliminate negative thinking and release the negative emotions that sabotage us at home, at work, and in our relationships. PTS Director of Student Counseling, Nancy Schongalla-Bowman, has shared this deceptively simple and surprisingly effective method and tools with countless students and spouses. (BOOK)

The Sedona Method Course
by Hale Dwoskin

This series of CDs is designed to guide you experientially into rediscovering within yourself your natural ability to let go of any unwanted feelings on the spot. It will then show you how to use this ability to eliminate the root cause of all inner limitation. (CD and WORKBOOKS)

The Sedona Method for Releasing EmotionLecture from the Princeton Seminary Wholistic Health Initiative Seminars, March 2008. (CD)

 The 60-Second Shrink: Over 100 Strategies for Staying Sane in a Crazy World
by Arnold and Clifford Lazarus

Provides concise answers for solving mental health problems. Learn the vital elements of a successful marriage; how to deal effectively with anger, depression, stress, and anxiety. In plain language, and brief enough to be read in about a minute, each of the 116 mental health "morsels" helps readers handle a key life issue. Introduced with a brief vignette, every item includes a discussion of the psychological implications and offers suggestions for better mental health. (BOOK)

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POWER / PERFORMANCE (see PERSONAL GROWTH / SELF-ESTEEM )


PTSD

Healing Trauma (Health Journeys)
by Belleruth Naparstek

Naparstek designed this guided imagery with help from combat vets, survivors of rape, bombings, accidents, natural disasters and inces. It goes very deep, and seems to work best with seasoned wounds. In the immediate aftermath of trauma, it is recommended that most people start with the stress, sleep and grief imagery first. (CD - 60 minutes)

Invisible Heroes: Survivors of Trauma and How They Heal
by Bellaruth Naparstek

Traditional psychotherapy is word-based; the patient talks through his or her problems. However, Naparstek questions the verbal techniques used for decades to treat Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD. Her book draws on over thirty years of clinical experience, the most recent, cutting edge research, and powerful new discoveries in neurophysiology, biochemistry and brain imaging, to synthesize a new understanding of trauma, and why imagery is truly the key to its healing. Filled with the voices of scores of actual survivors and therapists, it offers a spate of imagery know-how, a step-by-step program with more than 20 imagery scripts, tailored to the three stages of recovery, and a practical guide to the best of the new imagery-based therapies, such as EMDR, Prolonged Exposure, Trauma Incident Reduction and Somatic Experiencing. (BOOK) *This resource partners well with Three Stages of Healing Trauma: Nine Meditations (CD - see below)*

Lucid Dreaming: A Concise Guide to Awakening in Your Dreams and in Your Life
by Stephen LaBerge

Lucid dreaming has become the template for some of the more successful protocols that reduce or eliminate PTSD nightmares, as well as help people deal with the more garden variety fears and anxieties. LaBerge offers techniques that teach anyone to consciously explore and use their dreams for self-discovery, creativity, fantasy fulfillment, emotional healing, and profound spiritual insight. This complete mini-course shows you: The fastest and most effective program to awaken in the dream state; how to "re-dream" your nightmares to resolve hidden fears; ways to use dreamwork for emotional healing; and how to use the lucid dream state to more fully awaken in your daytime hours. Features a CD complete with dream induction sessions, exercises, and more. (BOOK)

Somatic Psychotherapy and Trauma Resolution
Conversations and Audio Interviews with members of the United States Association of Body Psychotherapy, 2007-2010. Produced by the NY Center for Somatic Psychotherapy and Trauma Resolution. (CD)

Three Stages of Healing Trauma: Nine Meditations for Post-traumatic Stress
by Belleruth Naparstek

This 3-CD set includes the most critical guided imagery mentioned in the book for each phase of recovery from PTSD. For Stage 1, Re-establishing Safety & Control, there is Imagery for Protection & Support, a Walking Meditation and Imagery for Restful Sleep. Stage 2, Healing & Integration, has Imagery to Ease Depression, Imagery to Release Grief and Imagery to Heal Trauma. And Stage 3, Clean-up & Renewal, offers Imagery for Confidence, Imagery for Anger & Forgiveness and Affirmations for PTSD. (CD)*This resource partners well with Naparstek’s Invisible Heroes (BOOK - see above)*

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SELF-ESTEEM (see PERSONAL GROWTH/SELF-ESTEEM )


SEXUAL ORIENTATION 

 Jesus, the Bible, and Homosexuality: Explode the Myths, Heal the Church
by Jack Rogers

Jack Rogers provides a biblical case for equal rights for people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender (LGBT). Throughout history, he observes, Christianity has moved towards ever greater openness and inclusiveness. Today's church is led by many of those who were once excluded: people of color, women, and divorced and remarried people. He argues that when we interpret the Bible through the lens of Jesus' redemptive life and ministry, we see that the church is called to grant equal rights to all people. This book describes Rogers' own change of mind and heart on the issue, charts the church's history of using biblical passages to oppress marginalized groups, argues for a Christ-centered reading of Scripture, debunks stereotypes about people who are LGBT, refutes the conventional wisdom about the texts that are often used against people who are LGBT, and presents ideas for how the church can heal itself and move forward again. (BOOK)

Loving Someone Gay
by Don Clark

Over the years Clark has provided vital insight into the psychodynamics and sociology of individuals, the gay men and lesbians who have been and continue to be misunderstood and abused in societies around the world. Clark states: "In this age of global misunderstanding in which we see old habits of prejudice and bigotry coming into question finally, the world cries out for communication and empathy. The time has come for any person who believes she or he is rational to offer a helping hand to a gay sister or brother, here or there, known or unknown. Previously unquestioned rules are changing. No person is free to dare to be exactly who she or he is until that person is willing to offer understanding, respect and affection to the gay person who yearns only for that same freedom." With this latest updated edition of his famous book, Clark shines a clear light into our future in the twenty-first century. (BOOK)

Now That You’re Out of the Closet, What About the Rest of the House?
by Linda Handel

Opening the door to a consistent, mature lifestyle is a difficult task for most of us, but especially for gays and lesbians living in a heterosexual world. This witty, helpful book offers solid advice, and covers the full range of life concerns--including lingering childhood issues, dating, sex and love, intolerance, and self-hatred. (BOOK)

On Being Liked
by James Alison

With questions of religion and homosexuality on the front pages again, and debates raging about the nature of marriage and the ordination of priests, James Alison invites us into deep, lucid reflection about God, the wonder of creation, and the way that God not only loves but likes every one of us. He takes us step-by-step through a bold adventure of re-imagining the central axis of the Christian story, not as ‘How does God deal with sin?’ but as ‘How do we take up God's invitation to share in the act of creation?’ (BOOK)

The Riddle of Gender: Science, Activism, and Transgender Rights
by Deborah Rudacille

When Deborah Rudacille learned that a close friend had decided to transition from female to male, she felt compelled to understand why. Coming at the controversial subject of transsexualism from several angles–historical, sociological, psychological, medical–Rudacille discovered that gender variance is anything but new, that changing one’s gender has been met with both acceptance and hostility through the years, and that gender identity, like sexual orientation, appears to be inborn, not learned, though in some people the sex of the body does not match the sex of the brain. Informed not only by meticulous research, but also by the author’s interviews with prominent members of the transgender community, The Riddle of Gender is a sympathetic and wise look at a sexual revolution that calls into question many of our most deeply held assumptions about what it means to be a man, a woman, and a human being. (BOOK)

The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man’s World
by Alan Downs

Today’s gay man enjoys unprecedented, hard-won social acceptance. Despite this victory, however, serious problems still exist. Substance abuse, depression, suicide, and sex addiction among gay men are at an all-time high, causing many to ask, “Are we really better off?” Drawing on contemporary research, psychologist Alan Downs’s own struggle with shame and anger, and stories from his patients, The Velvet Rage passionately describes the stages of a gay man’s journey out of shame and offers practical and inspired strategies to stop the cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behavior. Updated to reflect the effects of the many recent social, cultural, and political changes, The Velvet Rage is an empowering book that has already changed the public discourse on gay culture and helped shape the identity of an entire generation of gay men. (BOOK)

When I Knew: A Different Beginning
HBO Documentary Film

Alternately candid, funny, poignant and heartbreaking, When I Knew documents a cross-section of men and women of all ages and lifestyles who invoke the exact moment in their lives - whether as toddlers, grade-schoolers, teens or young adults - when they knew, once and for all, that they were gay. Inspired by the book of the same name by Robert Trachtenberg, award-winning filmmakers Fenton Bailey and Randy Barbato (The Eyes of Tammy Faye) capture a wide array of answers to the question "When did I know?" through this inventive portrait of gay men and women, each remembering the unique experience that brought them to the conclusion that they would never be "straight." Though some of the stories are tainted with loss, most proudly affirm that embracing one's sexual orientation is key to being true to yourself. (BOOK)


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SLEEP (see GENERAL WELL-BEING )


SPIRITUALITY / DISCERNMENT
see also HEALING ; VOCATION / MINISTRY

The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity by Julia Cameron (see PERSONAL GROWTH / SELF-ESTEEM )

Callings: Finding and Following an Authentic Life
by Gregg Levoy

Callings is a passionate exploration of the search for authenticity, whether at work or at home, in our relationships or in service. In a style that is poetic, exuberant and keenly insightful, Gregg Levoy breathes contemporary life into the ancient subject of callings, presenting an illuminating and practical inquiry into how we listen and respond to our calls, and translate them into action. (BOOK)  

 Centering Prayer and Inner Awakening
by Cynthia Bourgeault

Practitioners of Centering Prayer are known for the great enthusiasm they bring to the practice of this ancient discipline. Centering Prayer and Inner Awakening is a complete guidebook for all who wish to know the practice of Centering Prayer. Bourgeault goes further than offering an introduction, however. She examines how the practice is related to the classic tradition of Christian contemplation, looks at the distinct nuances of its method, and explores its revolutionary potential to transform Christian life. The book encourages dialogue between Centering Prayer enthusiasts and those classic institutions of Christian nurture--churches, seminaries, and schools of theology--that have yet to accept real ownership of the practice and its potential. (BOOK)

Channeling Grace: Invoking the Power of the Divine
by Caroline Myss

"Grace is the breath of God—an invisible essence beyond intellect that moves swiftly amongst us," teaches Caroline Myss. With Channeling Grace you are invited to ascend to what Myss calls the "altitude of the mystics" and invoke this expansive energy in your life. In session one, Myss explains how to recognize grace in your life by describing some of the countless ways we experience it—both internally as a sudden insightful voice, and externally as synchronicity in the world. In session two, she offers a full set of specific invocations to contact grace directly, navigate your path in times of chaos, gain clarity and direction in your life, and heal yourself or others. Myss offers her expert guidance to help you maintain a steadfast connection to the illuminating divine phenomenon she calls grace. (CD)

Christian Meditation: Entering the Mind of Christ
by James Finley

Beginning with an overview of the Christian contemplative tradition and its historical roots, and complete with step-by-step instructions about how to progress in your own practice, Finley offers a personal retreat experience for you to practice along with, at your own pace. In 12 complete sessions and more than seven hours of basic instruction with the beginner in mind, James Finley guides you along this path of awakening, in order to glimpse the infinite union that holds the secret of who we really are. This state of awakened consciousness, referred to by an anonymous Christian mystic as the cloud of unknowing, is held in common by the world's great wisdom traditions, both Eastern and Western. (CD)

Here I Am, Lord. Now What? Transitions and Survival in the First Parish
by Susan E. Fox and Kurtis C. Hess
Curriculum.

Decision Making and Spiritual Discernment: The Sacred Art of Finding Your Way
by Nancy L. Bieber
When we approach decision making as a spiritual practice, we are recognizing that we need the aid of the wise and loving Spirit whose Light exceeds our own. This is the practice of spiritual discernment, the traditional religious name for listening and attending to God's guidance. While traditional religious language speaks of finding "God's will," the approach in this book is that we are active participants, co-creators with the Divine in shaping our lives. Drawing on twenty-five years of experience as a psychologist and fifteen years of experience as a spiritual director, Nancy L. Bieber presents three essential aspects of Spirit-led decision-making: willingness; attentiveness; and responsiveness. With gentle encouragement, Bieber shows us how to weave these themes together so that they strengthen our decision-making process and help us find our path. Each chapter is enriched by detailed and practical spiritual exercises, which serve as tools for our process of decision-making. (BOOK)

Discerning God’s Will
by Ben Campbell Johnson

This book acknowledges that we all search to find purpose in our life. Ben Johnson believes that the will of God resides in the depths of the human psyche and shows that the search for meaning is synonymous with the quest for the will of God. He suggests that the individual may be helped in finding the will of God in and through the church as a community of discernment. Each chapter includes reflection exercises. (BOOK)  

Dreams as Spiritual Practice
by Don Bisson

According to Brother Bisson, “Dreams are revelations from the Divine, assisting us to find our True identity in God. To work with your dreams, to record and enact the meaning, can assist the individuation process and help find harmony with God’s deepest desires.” This workshop will lead to a better understanding of dream work, and help apply it to true religious practice for discernment and prayer. The presentation integrates both Jungian and Christian perspectives. (6 CDs)

Dreams: God’s Forgotten Language
by John Sanford

This recently revised edition of John Sanford's classic exploration of the psychological and spiritual significance of dreams draws on the work of C.G. Jung to show how dreams can help us find healing and wholeness and reconnect us to a living spiritual world. Featuring a new preface by the author and using case histories from his own experience as a counselor, Dreams traces the role of dreams in the Bible, analyzing their nature and examining how Christians, through fear and the constraints of dogma, have come to reject the visions through which God speaks to humanity, making dreams -- in Sanford's words -- "God's forgotten language." (BOOK)

Exploring the Labyrinth: Making Sense of the New Spirituality
by Nevill Drury

At a time when more and more people are discovering non-traditional ways of expressing their spirituality, and when many others denounce such avenues as paths for the deluded, here is a welcome guide for all. For the initiated, Exploring the Labyrinth provides a much-needed context and history for their spiritual practices and beliefs; for the novice it introduces a rich and exciting world of new spiritual research and experimentation; for the skeptic it offers an overview of the respectable philosophical and scientific traditions that form the basis of the new spirituality. (BOOK)

 God Calling
by A.J. Russell

A daily devotional. (BOOK)

God’s Chosen Fast: A Spiritual and Practical Guide to Fasting
by Arthur Wallis

This is a balanced study which seeks to give fasting the weight that Scripture gives, while avoiding abuse. The book includes a biblical index, and an appendix dealing with the textual problems surrounding four references to fasting in the New Testament. (BOOK)

 The God Who Speaks: Learning the Language of God
by Ben Campbell Johnson

In this insightful book Ben Campbell Johnson explores the subject of divine speech, highlighting its importance to faith and leading Christian believers into the practice of listening for God's voice in daily life. Johnson explores the biblical foundations of divine communication, tracing the ways that God has spoken to humankind from the calling of Abraham, to the appearance of Jesus, to the continuing work of the Spirit in the early church. He then gleans important lessons about God's language from a wide range of Christian figures throughout history. As this historical record shows, God communicates with us in a variety of ways. In exploring these different modes of "GodSpeech," Johnson deftly guides readers into the practice of "intensive listening," a way of posing issues to God and discerning his response. Johnson concludes the book by recounting a number of personal experiences that vividly illustrate the value of learning to listen to God's voice. (BOOK)

 Good Goats: Healing Our Image of God
by Dennis Linn, Sheila Fabricant Linn, and Matthew Linn

A fully illustrated, full-color book that, through a blending of story, scripture and theology, tackles questions of sin, hell, and vengeance in such a way that readers are led to transformation and healing in the midst of a loving, merciful and saving God. (BOOK)

Grounded in God: Listening Hearts Discernment for Group Deliberations
by Suzanne Farnham, Stephanie Hull, and Taylor McLean

This powerful, prayerful, and practical guide teaches groups a whole new way of conducting meetings and reaching consensus. Whether your group, committee or board is secular or religious, its members can now move beyond parliamentary procedure to a higher level using the model described here. Rooted in scripture, Grounded in God energizes and inspires. Learn how to incorporate creative silence, imagination, intuition, attentive listening, scripture, and prayer into routine meetings, decision making, or working retreats. By opening up to new perspectives, discover that the first order of business is to become attuned to God’s presence within those assembled. As members of the group become receptive to alternative viewpoints, they are opened to tap into the flow of divine wisdom and align with the will and mind of God. The results can be both spiritual and practical as they are put into action. (BOOK)

Jesus Calling: Enjoying Peace in His Presence
by Sarah Young

A daily devotional filled with uniquely inspired treasures from heaven for every day of the year. After many years of writing in her prayer journal, missionary Sarah Young decided to listen to God with pen in hand, writing down whatever she believed He was saying to her. It was awkward at first, but gradually her journaling changed from monologue to dialogue. She knew her writings were not inspired as Scripture is, but journaling helped her grow closer to God. Others were blessed as she shared her writings, until people all over the world were using her messages. They are written from Jesus' point of view, thus the title Jesus Calling. It is Sarah's fervent prayer that our Savior may bless readers with His presence and His peace in ever deeper measure. (BOOK)

Making Heart-Bread
by Matthew Linn, Sheila Fabricant Linn and Dennis Linn

According to the Linn family, heart-bread is made from memories of love. It never gets used up, and the more you let heart-bread feed you, the more you have. This book encourages children to take in nourishment from the day's grateful memories and heal painful memories. In a world where our children are bombarded with messages telling them what they must have in order to be happy, here is a way we can help them know from within what will bring them genuine and lasting happiness. This book includes a section for parents and caregivers who want to help children make heart-bread every night by taking in love from nourishing moments and healing the moments that took life away. Second in a series for children by the Linns, this is an adaptation of their best-selling book for adults, Sleeping with Bread: Holding What Gives You Life , also available in the PTS lending library. (BOOK)

Living Before God: Deepening Our Sense of the Divine Presence
by Ben Campbell Johnson
This book seeks to help individuals live constantly in God's presence. Writing in the tradition of Brother Lawrence and those authors concerned with the realization of God's presence amid the daily round, Ben Campbell Johnson offers a collection of traditional spiritual practices that Christians have found helpful in fostering a more consistent relationship with God. Following introductory discussion of the reality and nature of spiritual awareness, including a fascinating excursus on the "art of wondering," each chapter of this book describes a spiritual posture that can aid people in recognizing and nurturing God's presence in their lives. Johnson explores ways of being with God, listening to God, and attending the divine presence. Each chapter concludes with suggestions for journaling designed to let readers experience each specific posture in a concrete way. (BOOK)

Mindfulness Meditation as a Way to Stay Present
Lecture from the Princeton Seminary Wholistic Health Initiative Seminars, March 2008. (CD)

The Other Side of Silence: A Guide to Christian Meditation

by Morton T. Kelsey
his Christian way of meditating can bring many people a whole new vision of reality and new effectiveness in their living. The author has created a book which provides both a rationale and a method of Christian meditation. (BOOK)

Prayer Practices for Inner Peace and Ongoing Mission
Lecture from the Princeton Seminary Wholistic Health Initiative Seminars, March 2008. (CD)

Sabbath: Finding Rest, Renewal, and Delight in Our Busy Lives
by Wayne Muller

In today's world, with its relentless emphasis on success and productivity, we have lost the necessary rhythm of life, the balance between work and rest. Constantly striving, we feel exhausted and deprived in the midst of great abundance. We long for time with friends and family, we long for a moment to ourselves. Millennia ago, the tradition of Sabbath created an oasis of sacred time within a life of unceasing labor. Muller shows us how to create a special time of rest, delight, and renewal--a refuge for our souls. We need not even schedule an entire day each week. Sabbath time can be a Sabbath afternoon, a Sabbath hour, a Sabbath walk. With wonderful stories, poems, and suggestions for practice, Muller teaches us how we can use this time of sacred rest to refresh our bodies and minds, restore our creativity, and regain our birthright of inner happiness. (BOOK)

 Sabbath Renewal Lecture
by Wayne Muller
Lecture at Princeton Theological Seminary, November 2006. (CD)
 
Shadow and the Mystery of Evil
by Don Bisson
This training intensive points out the differentiation between personal shadow work, collective shadow work in society, and the mystery of evil. Using both Jungian and Christian insights, this program can help to unfold the mystery of light and darkness. Anyone consciously on their spiritual journey can benefit from deep shadow work. In addition, spiritual directors, pastors, and counselors need wisdom to encourage the encounter. This intensive is especially important and useful for Spritual Directors. (6 CDs)

Sleeping with Bread: Holding What Gives You Life
by Matthew Linn, Sheila Fabricant Linn and Dennis Linn
The Linns invite readers to participate in a process called examen that they practice in their home and during retreats. Examen involves asking ourselves two questions: For what am I most grateful? For what am I least grateful? According to the Lin family, “These questions help us identify moments of consolation and desolation. For centuries, prayerful people have found direction for their days and for their lives by identifying these moments. Since even small children can do this, we have tried here to present the examen in a format that families, friends and communities can share and that will be easily accessible to anyone. We hope the examen will enrich your lives and your relationships as much as it has ours.” (BOOK)

Spiritual Direction: Wisdom for the Long Walk of Faith
by Henri Nouwen

Henri Nouwen, the world-renowned spiritual guide and counselor, understood the spiritual life as a journey of faith and transformation that is deepened by accountability, community, and relationships. Though he counseled many people during his lifetime, his principles of spiritual direction were never written down. Two of his longtime students have taken his famous course in spiritual direction and supplemented it with his unpublished writings to create the definitive work on Nouwen's thoughts on the Christian life. Stories, readings, and thematically organized questions for reflection and guided journal writing provide an unparalleled resource for spiritual direction, both for individuals and for small groups. (BOOK)

Thoughts in Solitude
by Thomas Merton

The renowned Trappist monk Thomas Merton wrote Thoughts in Solitude in 1953 and 1954, when his superiors allowed him extended periods of seclusion and meditation. What has made this book such an enduring and popular work is that it recognizes how important solitude is to our morality, integrity, and ability to love. Thoughts in Solitude addresses the pleasure of a solitary life, as well as the necessity for quiet reflection in an age when so little is private. One does not have to be a monk to find solitude, notes Merton; solitude can be found in the act of contemplation and silent reflection in everyday life. (BOOK)

The Universe Tells Our Cosmic Story (Book One): Born with a Bang
by Jennifer Morgan

Get ready to hear the Universe tell its own life story of chaos and creativity. Time after time the Universe nearly perishes, then bravely triumphs and turns itself into new and even more spectacular forms—like the Sun and Earth. It even turns itself into Earthling scientists who help the Universe discover more about itself. This is a science story from the inside. It’s a story about you, from the time you were really born—about 13 billion years ago. First in a trilogy, this illustrated book ends as the Universe forms a young Earth. (BOOK)

The Universe Tells Our Earth Story (Book Two): From Laua to Life
by Jennifer Morgan

Settle in with your favorite pillow while the Universe tells the thrilling story of Earth. It’s a story about the beginning of life, and how Earth triumphs over crisis to become bacteria…jellyfish…flowers… dinosaurs! It’s a science story that is your story, too, the story of your living Earth and the unbroken chain that connects you to the very first life that began to twitch in the sea four billion years ago. This illustrated book is the second in a trilogy that tells the story of our universe. (BOOK)

The Universe Tells Our Evolution Story (Book Three): Mammals Who Morph
by Jennifer Morgan

This remarkable illustrated evolution series, narrated by the Universe itself, concludes with Book Three, the amazing story of mammals. It picks up with the extinction of dinosaurs, and tells how tiny mammals survived and morphed into lots of new Earthlings… horses, whales and a kind of mammal with a powerful imagination—you! It’s a story of chaos, creativity and heroes—the greatest adventure on Earth! And it’s a personal story…about our bodies, our minds, our spirits. It’s our story. (BOOK)

The Way of Discernment: Spiritual Practices for Decision-Making
by Elizabeth Liebert

We all make decisions constantly--some with careful reflection, some without much thought. But what if we understood these decisions, minor as well as major, as matters of faithful Christian living? In this helpful and encouraging book, Elizabeth Liebert introduces the practice of discernment and guides readers through the process of faithful decision making. Following the way of discernment means becoming increasingly able to notice where God is at work in the world and in one's own life--and becoming increasingly generous with one's own life in response. After briefly exploring the Christian tradition of discernment, Liebert then turns to practical steps and exercises that will help readers as they seek God's call in the midst of their decisions, allowing readers to internalize some of these practices and incorporate them into their daily lives. (BOOK)

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STRENGTHS AND PERSONALITY TYPES

Do What You Are: Discover the Perfect Career for You through the Secrets of Personality Type
by Paul and Barbara Tieger

This book introduces Personality Type - how you process information, make decisions and interact with the world around you - and shows you which of the 16 types describes you best. It lists dozens of occupations that are popular with people of your type. Then, using workbook exercises and real-life examples to highlight the strengths and pitfalls of each personality type, it shows you step-by-step how to use your unique strengths to customize your job search, ensuring the best results in the shortest period of time. And if you plan to stay in your job, the Tiegers provides savvy advice for getting the most out of your current career. Do What You Are helps you determine what you need to be more successful and satisfied. (BOOK)

The Enneagram: A Journey of Self-Discovery
by Maria Beesig, Robert J. Nogosek, and Patrick H. O'Leary
The Enneagram is a most helpful instrument in assisting persons to see themselves in the mirror of their minds, especially to see the images of personality distorted by compulsions and other basic attitudes about self. O’Leary and Beesing are experts in the Enneagram and in conducting workshops concerned with its application in personal and spiritual life. In this innovative and challenging book, the authors help us to identify and admit the prevailing compulsions of the nine basic personality types and thus to see life more fully and to search for practical guidelines for personal healing. With the assistance of Nogosek, the authors have taken the enneagram out of its long but shrouded history and given it a practical place in personal and spiritual psychology. (BOOK)

 The Enneagram: Understanding Yourself and the Others in Your Life
by Helen Palmer

This is the first definitive guide to the Enneagram and its nine distinct personality types. Learn to recognize your own type and those of the people you are involved with personally and at work. It teaches ways to capitalize on the strengths of your type, handle its weaknesses, and thereby achieve your potential. The Enneagram is a very old and layered tool that has led students of the Enneagram to greater spiritual freedom, depth and wisdom. (BOOK)

The Enneagram in Love and Work: Understanding Your Intimate and Business Relationships
by Helen Palmer

The Enneagram is a remarkable personality typing system that defines nine types of people and how they relate. It also explains why we behave in the way we do by uncovering our unconscious motivations and deeply rooted influences. With vivid examples and insightful description, Palmer introduces the nine types -- Perfectionist, Giver, Performer, Romantic, Observer, Trooper, Epicure, Boss, and Mediator -- and illuminates each one's strengths, weakness, and potentials. Examining each type individually and in connection to others, Palmer shows how all our relationships in love and work can thrive with a new-found understanding of our similarities and differences. (BOOK)

The Enneagram Made Easy: Discover the 9 Types of People
by Renee Baron and Elizabeth Wagele

Two long-time students of the Enneagram have teamed up to demystify this uncanny personality-typing system. In a witty and informative book packed with cartoons, exercises, and personality types, the authors help everyone discover and appreciate his or her type. (BOOK)

Just Your Type: Creating the Relationship You Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type by Paul and Barbara Tieger (see MARRIAGE / RELATIONSHIPS )

Living Your Strengths: Discover Your God-Given Talents, and Inspire Your Community
by Albert Winseman

A "strengths"-based guide to inspiring congregations presents a unique plan for building community by encouraging individuals to share their talents with the group. While millions of people in the U.S. are actively involved in some sort of religious organization, many people feel disengaged from their faith communities. More than half report that they really don't get the opportunity in their congregation to do what they do best. The problem is this: too many people's talents are going unappreciated. But it doesn't have to be this way. Living Your Strengths shows readers how to use their innate gifts to enrich their faith communities. The book shows people how to identify and affirm their talents, and how to use them for growth and service. Most importantly, this resource helps people discover their true callings. (BOOK)

Now, Discover Your Strengths
by Marcus Buckingham and Donald Clifton

Unfortunately, most of us have little sense of our talents and strengths, much less the ability to build our lives around them. Instead, guided by our parents, by our teachers, by our managers, and by psychology's fascination with pathology, we become experts in our weaknesses and spend our lives trying to repair these flaws, while our strengths lie dormant and neglected. Buckingham and Clifton have created a revolutionary program to help readers identify their talents, build them into strengths, and enjoy consistent, near-perfect performance. Based upon a long-term study to identify the most prevalent human attributes leading to career success, this book is designed to help individuals identify their own unique talents and succeed at every level. (BOOK)

The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types
by Don Richard Riso and Ross Hudson

Riso and Hudson introduce a powerful new way to use the Enneagram as a tool for personal transformation and development. Whatever your spiritual background, the Enneagram shows how you can overcome your inner barriers, realize your unique gifts and strengths, and discover your deepest direction in life. The Wisdom of the Enneagram includes: two highly accurate questionnaires for determining your type; vivid individual profiles focused on maximizing each type's potential and minimizing predictable pitfalls; spiritual jump starts, wake-up calls, and red flags for each type; dozens of individualized exercises and practical strategies for letting go of troublesome habits, improving relationships, and increasing inner freedom; and revealing insights into the deepest motivations, fears, and desires of each type. (BOOK)

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STRESS
see also ANXIETY

A Day Away from Stress
by Stuart McCalley

Five easy relaxation exercises over a backdrop of soothing music. (CD - 50 minutes)

Beat Stress with Strength
by Stefanie Spera and Sandra Lanto

Here is expert advice on how to fight stress and win compiled from more than 15 years of intensive study, formal research, and hundreds of interactive workshops with thousands of participants. Includes a Personal Stress Test that pinpoints sources of stress and its effects, as well as 15 ways to reduce work-related stress. (BOOK)

Controlling Stress and Tension
by Daniel Girdano, George Everly and Dorothy Dusek

This book takes a multifaceted, holistic approach to stress management. First, it discusses the stress problem and our potential for achieving solutions to it. The next chapters examine potential stress-producing elements in everyday life. The remainder of the book offers techniques for alleviating stress and tension. Personal journal activities and self-assessments placed throughout the book encourage students to apply the concepts they have learned to themselves. These activities are brought together at the conclusion of the book, helping students develop their own stress-management program. (BOOK)

Laughing at Stress
by Loretta LaRoche

Replace stress with joy. Learn how to laugh at yourself, appreciate the joy in each moment, and begin to see the humor in stressful situations. LaRoche's uncanny ability to point out the irrational ways that people react to stress will get your audience laughing and keep them laughing while they learn about the therapeutic power of humor. Her extensive knowledge of cognitive restructuring (i.e., changing your perception of stress) is ingeniously interwoven into her funny monologues and reinforced with five simple techniques that help you put this advice into practice. (VHS - 22 minutes)

The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook
by Martha Davis and Elizabeth Eshelman

This is the definitive source book for stress and anxiety sufferers who are serious about controlling stress and overcoming its paralyzing results. A long list of methods includes a stress-control diary, five different types of relaxation, directions for self-hypnosis, homemade relaxation tapes, and worry control. This book covers the subject from every angle possible, suggesting both preventative and proactive measures, such as assertiveness training, healthy diet, and managing job stress. (BOOK)

Relieve Stress (Health Journeys)
by Belleruth Naparstek

Exercises on this CD include: guided imagery for mastering anxiety; guided imagery to pump up feelings of love, safety and protection; a soothing, walking meditation for the fidgeters among us who can’t sit still; and affirmations for use anytime. (CD - 72 minutes)

Thought Field Therapy for Stress Management and Peak Performance
by Mary Sise

Sise, a clinical social worker and trauma expert, has boiled down crucial elements from Thought Field Therapy (TFT) and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), to offer a simple, accessible, user-friendly, acupressure/eye movement protocol for fears, phobias, addictions, overwhelming feelings, relationship challenges and peak performance demands. After providing several powerful demonstrations, this bright, skillful, compassionate, funny, therapist offers a fill-in-the-blanks, personalized session for the viewer. (DVD - 118 minutes)

Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers

by Robert Sapolsky

When we worry or experience stress, our body turns on the same physiological responses that an animal's does, but we do not resolve conflict in the same way - through fighting or fleeing. Over time, this activation of a stress response makes us literally sick. Combining cutting-edge research with a healthy dose of good humor and practical advice, Sapolsky explains how prolonged stress causes or intensifies a range of physical and mental afflictions, including depression, ulcers, colitis, heart disease, and more. It also provides essential guidance to controlling our stress responses. (BOOK)

The Stress Management Journal: 28 Days to Stress Mastery
by James Porter

Most of us are in touch with symptoms related to stress--headaches, sleeplessness, fatigue, stomachaches--but we are not always sure of the underlying causes of our stress. By using this innovative journal, you will discover the one or two underlying issues that are causing most of your stress. The journal goes on to help you manage your stress by introducing five relaxation techniques and five cognitive techniques that will help you change the way you deal with and think about stress. Unchecked, stress can take over your life, damage your career, negatively affect relationships, and ultimately lead to illness. You will never eliminate and cope with all of your stress, but in 28 days focus on the stress you can control and learn how to eliminate it, avoid it, and cope with it so you feel happier, healthier, and more relaxed. (WORKBOOK) *25 copies of this journal are available. It can be taken out on loan or purchased for $2.00*

  A Biofeedback Relaxation System is also available through the lending library. The device comes with a CD of fully-narrated relaxation exercises that can help you relieve stress.

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TIME MANAGEMENT (see PERSONAL GROWTH/SELF-ESTEEM )


VOCATION / MINISTRY

Cultivating Wholeness: A Guide to Care and Counseling in Faith Communities
by Margaret Kornfeld

This book is a practical, comprehensive, contemporary guide to community care and counseling. Kornfeld focuses on wholeness, an inclusive understanding of spirituality, the caregiver/ counselor, and on community as not merely the context for healing but also the means by which healing happens. This text provides a practical, comprehensive and contemporary guide to community care and counseling in religious contexts. (BOOK)

Do What You Are: Discover the Perfect Career for You Through the Secrets of Personality Type by Paul and Barbara Tieger (see STRENGTHS / PERSONALITY TYPES )

The Emotionally Healthy Church: A Strategy for Discipleship that Actually Changes Lives
by Peter Scazzero

As Scazzero discovered in his church---New Life Fellowship in Queens---lots of activity doesn't guarantee spiritual health. In this expanded edition, he takes a deeper look at six principles that establish strong personal relationships and a sense of community; and adds a seventh---how contemplative devotion can lead to spiritual and emotional well-being. Scazzero shares refreshing new insights and a different and challenging slant on what it takes to lead your congregation to wholeness and maturity in Christ. (BOOK)    

 Every Minister Needs a Lover, Just Be Sure It’s Your Spouse
by Paul and Sybil Eppinger

The authors have designed a book with the busy pastoral couple in mind. Intended to be used as a manual for couples wanting to enrich their marriage, it is divided into 30 practical, readable segments dealing with every thing from finances to vulnerability. Although the book is designed primarily for pastors and their spouses, much of its practical advice applies to any marriage and can be used by the pastor for sermons or seminars. To facilitate the sharing process, each chapter contains short personal insights by the authors, a related Scripture passage, and several paragraphs from noted marriage specialists. (BOOK)

Here I Am, Lord. Now What? Transitions and Survival in the First Parish
by Susan E. Fox and Kurtis C. Hess

Curriculum.

How Your Church Family Works: Understanding Congregations as Emotional Systems
by Peter Steinke

Drawing on the work of Bowen, Friedman, and his own many years' counseling experience, Steinke shows how to recognize and deal with the emotional roots of such issues as church conflict, leadership roles, congregational change, irresponsible behavior, and the effect of family of origin on current relationships. Discover why working relationships may be "stuck" in certain behaviors. Psychologically sound, theologically grounded, and practically illustrated with case studies, How Your Church Family Works will help you better understand how your congregation works and how to keep it healthy. (BOOK)

 Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation
by Parker J. Palmer

With wisdom, compassion, and gentle humor, Parker J. Palmer invites us to listen to the inner teacher and follow its leadings toward a sense of meaning and purpose. Telling stories from his own life and the lives of others who have made a difference, he shares insights gained from darkness and depression as well as fulfillment and joy, illuminating a pathway toward vocation for all who seek the true calling of their lives. (BOOK)

The Mystery of Choice: Discerning the Call of God
by Don Bisson

According to Brother Bisson, “Vocation, a soul invitation, is to live in alignment with God’s will. This is living in the spirit of discernment and listening to a deeper Voice than the ego”. This workshop examines the art of deep listening and helps to summon the courage necessary to incarnate the invitation. (3 CDs)

Sex in the Parish
by Karen Lebacqz and Ronald Barton

Lebacqz and Barton examine the gift of sexuality in relation to the parish and the dynamics of sexual desire and temptation. Included in this book are the experiences of a pastor who did not set appropriate limits; explanations of how the pastoral role affects sexual contact between pastor and parishioner; suggestions for a framework of ethical analysis; an examination of questions for women in ministry, single pastors, and pastors who are gay, lesbian, or bisexual; and a review of ethical issues related to persons who carry responsibilities for the structures of ministerial practice. (BOOK)

Speak Lord, for Your Servant Is Listening
Exercises in prayer. (CD)

What Color Is Your Parachute? 2013: A Guide for Job-Seekers and Career-Changers
by Richard Bolles

In order to tailor his authoritative guide to the current job- market, Bolles not only updates the book each year, but he also reconceives it, reinvents it, and rewrites it, so that one year’s edition is often vastly different from the year before. This is the case with the 2013 edition. Inventions in the book this year include a brand-new transferable skills grid, a novel way to discover what fields you would most like to work in, and a revamped version of his famed self-inventory instrument, the Flower Exercise. With fresh insights into resumes, networking, interviewing, salary negotiation, entrepreneurship, and social media, this resource has everything you need to dust off your motivation and find your dream job. (BOOK) 

When the Pastor Is Your Husband: The Joy and Pain of Ministry Wives
by Donna Bordelon Alder

Unrealistic expectations, feelings of inadequacy, guarded friendships, a fishbowl existence, loneliness. These difficulties can be more tenable when one examines frustrations and puts them into an eternal frame of reference. In this resource, Alder relays advice mined from the experience of thousands to bring real-life stories and heartfelt encouragement to those considering, anticipating, and engaged in life as ministry wives. This book reveals down-to-earth encouragement for the ministry wife’s everyday life. (BOOK)

When Work Doesn’t Work Anymore: Women, Work, and Identity
by Elizabeth Perle McKenna

For decades, women have succeeded at traditional male jobs, but now, deep in the second stage of the feminist movement, they want lives that are integrated and whole. Based on original research and containing hundreds of interviews with prominent working women, this book exposes the inherent conflict between the way work traditionally is structured and rewarded, and what women desire and value in their lives. More important, it suggests new ways for women to identify their values, reclaim their identities, and define success on their own terms. McKenna deconstructs the myth that women can have it all, and shows that they risk true happiness until they give up that impossible ideal. The author's focus extends to every working woman who will most likely face a life-altering situation at some point in her career and will need to redefine success. (BOOK)

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WEIGHT LOSS
see also EATING DISORDERS

Change Your Brain, Change Your Body: Use Your Brain to Get and Keep the Body You Have Always Wanted
by Daniel Amen
(see GENERAL WELL-BEING )

Permanent Weight Loss

by Emmett Miller

This collection of 5 tracks is designed to help you keep weight off after it’s been shed. Key pointers are explained in the first track, followed by general relaxation; imagery on self-acceptance & empowerment; imagery of a balance of energy intake and output; and imagery of seeing your future self, maintaining your desired goals of healthy weight, strength and energy. The final track provides crucial help with emotional eating. (CD - 75 minutes)

Weight Loss
by David Illig

The Weight Loss program is a hypnotic and subliminal learning program for achieving and maintaining your healthy weight. Use this program by itself or better yet, combine it with any effective weight loss program you are using. Get your unconscious mind working along with your body and conscious mind. The program is flexible enough to allow you to adjust to whatever level of carbohydrates, fats or proteins you have decided you will use. The program will help you to: eat healthier; manage your calories; eat less; change how you view food; develop positive eating behaviors; improve your metabolism; enjoy nutritious foods; encourage exercise; and stop emotional binging. This program includes special resonating tones that have been found to deepen relaxation and increase learning. (CD - 75 minutes)

Weight Loss (Health Journeys)
by Belleruth Naparstek

This guided imagery encourages a sense of wonder and appreciation for the body, heightens serotonin to reduce appetite, and envisions the biochemical conversion of fat into focused energy and muscle. Empowering and confidence- building, this audio doubled weight loss in a placebo controlled pilot study at Canyon Ranch. (CD - 60 minutes)

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